So, the discussion continues. Pardon me, wasn’t feeling well the past week.
It is obvious that keeping a child in diapers has certain side-effects. Every choice has it’s consequence. In the case of an incontinent child, one could dismiss the resulting inconveniences as something which nothing could be done about. In most cases that is true; even the ‘curable’ forms of incontinence would take years to resolve. There are the physical inconveniences, such as needing to change diapers, finding places to change them, providing for clothes to conceal them etc. Then there are the emotional aspects, such as explaining to and comforting the child, teaching the to tackle situations should they arise, helping them fit it, protecting them from paedophiles, etc. No need to mention the financial cost.
There are horrible parents who still keep their children in diapers way past school-going age. Japan is known for this, the western world is slowly catching up. The YouTube clip below states that 1 in 10 kids in Britain still wear diapers to school. So the number while small, is significant. Poor things, those teachers, they change diapers for pee too? I feel that is too extreme. But that aside, we have a sensing that there are hundreds of kids out there who may be trained for pee, but may still require a diaper for their #2.
What about a child who needs a diaper when he/she needs to poop? Big deal, just give a diaper, you could say. But the thing is, the act of forcing poop out into a disposable garment is the easy part. The parent would have to buy the diapers, would have to put it on to the child. And once she is done, they would have to clean her up, and dispose of the diaper as well. Would any adult want to actually come into contact with fecal matter? How would they deal with their relatives? And how would they answer when their child asks why she is still needing a diaper.
Most likely, a child would need to ‘control’ her poop until he/she has access to a diaper. This most likely would be when they reach home after a long day at school. This could cause problems. The constant urge to go could cause the child to lose their concentration in their lessons and studies. When faeces is retained in the rectum, more liquid than usual is drawn out of it making it harder and firmer. This means that it becomes harder to pass motion, and could result in constipation for the child. Repeat this cycle day-in, day-out for years and you have a recipe for potential bowel problems. Piles, polyps, intense pain when passing. What goes on down there affects what happens up there too.
As we all know, a child’s self-esteem during his/her formative years is very important. Keeping that self-esteem high is in part the parent’s job too, especially in the earlier years. One could be getting good grades, excelling in a sport and getting general praise from friends and family. So imagine the effect it would have on him to have to constantly hide a glaring secret from just about everyone! Think of all the missed sleep-overs, school-camps, overseas trips etc, having to hide his bag from his friends, not inviting them to his house for fear of accidental discovery, having to explain to his girlfriend etc. A parent could aid in covering up and mitigating these fears, but there is a limit to their intervention.
But here are still the child’s own thoughts. Wouldn’t it be embarrassing if others found out? Would they be subject to intense bullying? Would they resent being unable to use the toilet at all?
And then there is the moral aspect. Legally there is no official age to toilet-train a child, though establishments such as swimming pools and day-care centres can turn away children who aren’t. (It wouldn’t really affect children who need diapers only for #2.) None of the world’s religions give a number either. But people argue that allowing a human to continue to soil themselves is an indiscriminate act, even if they choose a diaper over a toilet. That is why you don’t see that many diaper wearers out there.
But seeing that supermarkets are somewhat well stocked speaks for itself – this trend is emerging, there is demand for diapers for older kids. One could blame the parents, for neglecting the child. Or seeking the easy way out. Or wanting to keep babying their grown child. Or protecting their child from unsanitary toilets. But whatever the case, with the ever globalising and modernising world, the number of kids being kept in diapers, particularly just for #2, will keep increasing.
So the parting thought is this: would the kid want to remain wearing diapers if he/she had a choice at the start? I say it is physically possible to do so, yes. But spare a moment and think abut that little human’s feelings first.