Online Shopping

Living in Singapore, I’m somewhat satisfied with the brands that are found in the supermarkets here. Both my go-to diaper and luxury diapers are well-known and I am very comfortable with them. But when surfing the net, all those premium diapers such as Bambino, ABU, AwwSoCute etc, keep on propping up. These websites don’t ship to Singapore, sadly, so my next best bet is to go to the likes of eBay and Amazon. I’ve tried shipping ordinary parcels from both the US and UK, and even tried using vPost as an alternate shipping means. But I’m not convinced that these means provide the discreetness and privacy of buying diapers directly from brick-and-mortar shops.

There are a few issues with shopping online for diapers. The first is the fact that you leave a digital trail of what and where you buy. I think banks and services like Paypal are professional about not divulging data. But the problem is that when a retailer ships a parcel to you, they need to send an invoice too, which they like to attach on the OUTSIDE of the box. Ok, lets assume the postman ignores that invoice. The main issue is when the parcel has to cross international borders. That’s when the immigration officers, in our case Singapore’s Imm!grat!ons and Checkpo!nt’s Author!ty (ICA), would be interested in the contents of the box for tax purposes and what not, and will read that invoice, taking note of it’s contents. The govt would know!

Then there is the ICA check itself. Like all border control, they would open up parcels to check for contraband, drugs etc. Given that I’m ordering diapers for non-medical reasons, this might be a cause for their suspicions, e.g for illegal sexual activities. Trust me, I don’t do such things but in the eye of the law, this may not be so. These data recording would be easily the biggest turn-off for me.

Then of course, there is the delivery of the package itself. My grandmother lives with me so there is someone at home all the time. And we also can’t choose the time that the postman delivers the parcel. So my people are bound to see such a parcel, and if my current parcels are anything to go by, they would certainly want to know its’ contents. To mitigate this, I tried using a local alternate shipping service. SingPost’s vPost service allows you to buy stuff overseas, and they do the international shipping to Singapore on your behalf. The neat thing about them is that you can choose to pick up your parcel at your own convenience from a 24-hr automated POPStation. That way, I can eliminate the awkward home delivery. Alas, I found out that parcels shipped from the US are open by the USA customs too…

To sum it up, going shopping online for diapers is not as discreet as buying it at the supermarket. This is because of the digital trails one leaves behind, the border and customs checks, and problems with home delivery, though the latter may be mitigated by using the vPost service. I guess that these aren’t a real problem for the incontinent, but they sure can be for an ABDL. So, I guess that my wish of trying a proper ABDL diaper would have to be put on hold for a while.

Mess, Confessions and ‘Contributions’

Sometimes we get reminded of the desire to wear diapers in the most undesirable ways. Today I stopped by at a public restroom at Eunos MRT station, at about 6pm. Located behind the standing-urinals are the cubicles, and I noticed that one of them was pretty messed up. Lying on the floor was a BIG pile of poop, which seemed to have been smeared all over the cubicle floor. The underwear was lying there too, with most of the poop still in it. I didn’t stare, but it was of medium size, a size that would have been worn by a 20-something youth. It really begs the question : Who the f*ck would leave their sh*t on the floor, for the elderly janitors to clean up after them? Did he have an ‘accident’, I don’t know. But still, just leaving it there? I felt more sad for the elderly janitors than curious about what had happened.

Lately I’ve been thinking of the hypothetical situation where I would have to eventually tell my girlfriend about my DL tendencies. Though that day is very far off, a series of people asking for advice on ADISC has really left me wondering what would be the best way to go about telling her, and how much should I reveal. While this matter has been subject to fierce debate over and over again, the general consensus is yes, tell her everything, then come to an agreement about it and stick to it. While I’d love to fall in love with a girl who is already in diapers, I would say that the chances of meeting such a girl in Singapore is close to zero. Therefore the possibility of confessing my DL tendencies to a girl from a conservative Asian society must be taken seriously. *Shudders at the thought*

I’ve been reading through the fine print of my publishing agreement, and as most publishers are based in the US, I’ve come to the realisation that I have no choice but to forfeit 30% in taxes to the US government. This is due to the lack of a tax treaty between the Singaporean and American Governments, which also means that I would have to pay tax to the IRAS as well :(. This means that effectively, I’m being forced to ‘contribute’ to US atrocities such as the wars and NSA spying. This I’m not happy about at all! Or, I could just not publish my book…

-Selv