When It Comes To Siblings Who Are Diapered, Part 2

Here’s Part 1. I’ve been a little busy, and it took time to research these posts.

When It Comes To Siblings Who Are Diapered, Part 1

We have looked at the emotions that people may experience as kids when they know that their sibling has to wear diapers for bedwetting. Most of the kids who remain diapered at an older age do so solely because of bedwetting. I’ve also talked about pubescent girls who may have to wear pull-ups for a bit while their bodies adjust. But there are two categories that rarely get mentioned.

I’ll touch on the second one briefly. There are sick parents out there who diaper their kids as a form of punishment. Some parents may be pushed to the point of putting the child back into diapers to protect the bed, but that is a mild form of it. But there are people who force their kids to wear nothing but a diaper and do stuff for a petty mistake. Or the daycare teacher that forced the child into diapers because she had several ‘accidents’. Those are basically a sick form of child abuse.

Imagine the horror that a sibling would go through upon seeing such scenes. They would begin to fret, fearing that they could be subject to it next. And usually, they are. There would usually be underlying family problems too, so usually such abuse would only end when child services are alerted.

The third category involves a child who use their diapers only to poop. There are a multitude of reasons as to why a child may continue to use his diaper just to go #2. Many involve incidents of trauma, such as constipation, which leads to an association that pooping on the toilet is painful etc. I’ll leave the reasons why this occurs to another post.

The diaper-pooping kid is becoming more prevalent. Just like how bedwetting is hushed up and kept a secret, so is this. Only this time, the secret is much more closely kept. A person may easily explain why diapers are needed for bedwetting, with all the involuntary peeing and stuff. But ‘willingly’ giving a child a diaper, just for her to put it on for a few minutes to do a ubiquitous act? That sounds preposterous!

The truth is, most of the kids who go through this issues would be single children. There simply isn’t any peer-pressure for them to change, and peer-pressure (a.k.a social impetus brought on by kids of the same age) has been singled out as a force that changes attitudes and behaviours in kids. That is why most kids get fully toilet-trained quickly upon starting school.

But we’re on a mission to find out, what if the trend continued past later years? For a start, parents would likely enforce the same set of rules on the sibling that would go with bed wetters i.e no teasing, no telling, no touching the diapers. Perhaps, because of the nature of taking a poop, there would be additional rules like ‘no disturbing when your sister is pooping’.

This poses a few thoughts. Due to the extra rules, the siblings may get a perception that they are being treated differently. Usually, they feel (or are made to feel) that they are being treated better by their parents. They may have better leeway when asking for things.

Second, there is very little sympathy. Betwetters have no control. But the diaper-poopers have all the control, yet they choose to be different. At least, that’s what a young child would perceive. As such, since it is the child’s choice, the sibling would be under the impression that the child is rebelling, and is thus getting their way.

Third, the whole family may experience inconveniences because the child needs a diaper. Diapers cost money. (Except perhaps in Singapore, flushing may cost the same amount.)The urge to poop comes at different times for everyone. So if a family is out, the mother may have to stop, just to diaper and clean up a child. That could cause a sibling to become more impatient with the child, piling on more grudges against them.

Then there is also the great chance that the sibling may develop a superiority complex over the child. That he is able to control himself, while ‘older sister cannot’. Other issues may crop upĀ and sibling rivalry may start to flame up in earnest.

One cannot ignore the fact that wearing diapers would subject the wearer to stereotypes. And children may not be mature enough to distinguish them. That is why kids tease each other. Kids who poop their diaper will always be teased and misunderstood. Which in itself, is the main reason why most non-incontinent kids don’t poop in their diapers for long – their siblings make fun of them.

As you can see, unlike in the case of bedwetting, the bond between a diaper-pooping child and their sibling(s) is very shaky. It even can get negative. This is why many people don’t talk about it – it brings back bad memories of their childhood. I had very little leads to go on. Most came from ABDL literature, from which I had to pick out the ideas and themes to arrive at this post.

– Selv

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Looking For A Decent Paying Part-Time Job

Let’s delay part 2. I’ve got a rant and a sighting to let off my chest.

I do have my current job as an admin assistant, but I feel that I am too free during the weekends. And as I’ve started to save up for my university education, as well as a pair of wheels, I figured that I could use the extra money.

I’ve considered tuition. This plan has backfired spectacularly as there are too many teachers out there and too little students. A little search suggests that the teacher to student ratio is a miserable 4:1! So, I have to KIV personal tuition.

So I decided to send out mail to tuition centres. My luck was terrible, not a single centre replied. I have given up this avenue.

The next interesting option that I tried is for freelance cleaning. So far I have received just one offer, but it is way below the market rate. I am holding back on this offer, but my choices are very limited on this matter.

Finally, there is freelance writing. Admittedly I haven’t pushed aggressively for freelance writing assignments as I have been focusing on getting tuition assignments. But I have had no luck at all. In fact, the freelance market is just as tight as the tuition market, and the demands are probably greater. So, I have to KIV this option.

My book is not due yet. I’m trying to get someone who can create covers for me, but this is proving harder than I thought. So there is a little money there that is unable to be processed. Just a little. Sigh…

Any suggestions?

I took a train to the west-side of Singapore yesterday, 20th April as I was attending a course. I was standing, absent-mindedly staring at my phone, at a pretty girl, back at my phone, then back to the pretty girl. She was looking at me too, so I didn’t feel too guilty. At one point, she got up from her seat to exit the train. Then, I saw it. Her butt bore the unmistakeable outline of a diaper concealed by not-so-loose dark blue pants!

I was shocked! Could this be it? Had just seen one of the girls on the SG ABDL forum? Alas, I could not be 100% sure that it was really a diaper(or pull-up); she had left the train. I thought long and hard if I should trust my eyes, or just concede that my mind playing tricks on me.

I guess that I have to factor in human error and have to choose the latter.

– Selv