Where To Buy Diapers In Singapore

There are a few options when it comes to buying diapers. You could buy them online, or from a brick-and-mortar shop. Some people like to shop online as it offers them the privacy and a wider range of available products to choose from. However, some people choose to buy them from stores for a number of reasons.

Many people still buy incontinence products at stores because of the speed and convenience. The majority of such users are usually bedridden and/or incontinent, as such, caregivers would tend to focus on other aspects of caring for their loved ones. As such, the products available at the nearby supermarket would suffice of them.

There are several types of diapers and incontinence products. There are tape-on diapers, pull-up pants, pad-type as well as bed protectors. Many of these are available even at supermarkets but for this post I will concentrate only on tape-on diapers.

If you guys want to skip the lengthy details, you may read the last section for my views.

Supermarkets

Many of us would have noticed that supermarkets carry adult diapers. There would usually be a small section in the baby diaper section which has a small selection of adult diapers. Almost all supermarkets in Singapore carry the Tena Value brand, it is a well-known plastic-backed brand which is well regarded for its’ price as well as capacity.

Prime Supermarkets carry a modest selection of diapers. They carry the Certainty line, Dr. P (Basic) as well as Tena Value. They used to carry a few other brands but have since stopped. They don’t have house-brand diapers.

Sheng Siong Supermarkets also have a modest range. They carry Dr. P, Tena Pants, Prevail diapers, which are unique to Sheng Siong. as well as their store-brand Softess Diapers, which cost $5.80 for 10. They do not carry Tena Value, surprisingly.

Giant Supermarkets have a wider range. They carry the usual Certainty diapers, Tena Slip Super, Tena Value, Tena Pants as well as Lifree Super Absorb diapers. You can find several variants of the Dr. P line only at their Hypermarket in Tampines. They have their own house brand diapers, the Giant (Storebrand) diapers, costing $6.50 for 10, which must have an audience for them despite their quality, having been around for many years.

NTUC Fairprice takes the cake for the most types of diapers it offers. It carries Certainty, Lifree Super Absorb tape-ons and pants, Tena Pants, Tena Value as well as TWO house brand diapers. It’s ‘Budget’ line is, as the name suggests, a budget diaper which is surprisingly popular possibly due to its price of $5.75 for 10. It also has a premium line, the Fairprice Safe Control and the overnight version Extra Control. While these are more pricey than your average economy diaper, they aren’t as well regarded. Fairprice also has diaper samples on display, so customers can feel the diaper’s texture before purchasing.

Hospital and Polyclinic Pharmacies

There are several hospitals out there, but I shall mention two of these. The first would be Ng Teng Fong hospital. They carry Tena Value (Institution), Certainty, Tena Slip Super as well as Tena Slip Maxi.  The issue is with getting to this pharmacy involves going pretty far out of your way just to reach it. While it is theoretically on the same level, and connected to, the Jurong East MRT station it is a very long walk winding through two malls and three towers within Ng Teng Fong Hospital. They do not have an online site yet.

I find that the prices of the products are more or less the same. However, they carry the 28pack Tena Slip Super, being one of the 2 suppliers in Singapore. Given it is price it is very much worth paying a visit if you use the TSS regularly, however you should call to check before going as stocks are limited.

The Second hospital pharmacy worth mentioning is Changi General Hospital’s Pharmacy. This pharmacy carries the usual Tena Value (U.P.$10.40, currently $7.50), Tena Value Institution as well as Tena Slip Maxi. They also carry Molicare Mobile diapers, which are a range of pull-up style diapers. This pharmacy has an online website which provides delivery, which does not come in discreet packaging!

Most of the polyclinics in Singapore are run by the National Healthcare Group, which has its’ own website as well. It carries Tena Value ($10.90), Tena Value Institution, Certainty as well as Tena Slip Super and Maxi. While their outlets usually are missing stock, their website usually has stock. I haven’t tried their delivery service.

Specialty Stores

Now there are a number of homecare shops here and I’ll talk about 2- Rehabmart and SeniorCare Assisted Living.

Rehabmart has one of the widest range of adult diapers. They have the usual Tena Value ($9.00!), Dr P, Certainty. They also carry Lille SupremFit diapers (Blue, Grey), Tena Slip Plus and Super, Molicare Super, BW Ultra and Convifit.

There is SeniorCare Assisted Living, which carries a number of unique diapers. Besides their Certainty and Tena Pants, Tena Value (U.P. $9.90, currently $8.70!!!) and the 28pack TSS, they carry Nateen, Seni and Cleancare diapers.

Thoughts

If you have reached this far, congratulations for your skimming skills! A number of people have asked for a comparison of different sites and while this isn’t a thorough review (and shouldn’t be regarded as such), it should give you a glimpse on where to buy Adult Diapers in Singapore.

Speciality stores are a great place to get Economy and Premium diapers because they have big bargains, and bring in good brands in all sizes (S-XL). They may be slightly out of the way, but they all offer delivery options.

Pharmacies often give the illusion that prices are cheaper but this is only true if one purchases in bulk. Generally I avoid buying in pharmacies because they are often crowded and their diaper shelves are placed in very open spaces. Not forgetting that they are often out of the way. The only scenario I see if of me getting the 28pc TSS, otherwise no for me.

Then there are supermarkets. Supermarkets offer convenience and accessibility as they are everywhere. Often they have promotional pricing available so you would usually get a few dollars off if you do a little research. You are able to get budget diapers here as well. But privacy can be a nightmare, for these are usually located in malls and town centres. I usually go over to the next town to minimise the chances of that happening. Usually, convenience beats savings and I get most of my diapers from a Supermarket.

There is one last category which I didn’t mention and that is chain pharmacies. Only two carry diapers, NTUC’s Unity as well as Guardian. The former carries the exact same range as its’ Fairprice chain, plus TSS, while Guardian only carries it’s own brand of (in my opinion lousy) diapers.

So where do you get your diapers? Do let me know! I hope this post was informative and you were able to learn a thing or two.

– Selv

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Pull-ups

I decided to give pull-up style diapers a second chance.

I was at a store late one evening and my choices were partly down to the 12 piece, $10.45 Tena Value diapers and the 10 piece, $13.90 Guardian Adult Pants diapers. I was running out of time, I needed to be home soon. I was also worried about the noise that the Tena Values made. So I reckoned that the cloth-backed pull-ups would be something different.

The only time I had an experience with pull-ups was when I bought a pack of Goodnites. Even back then, they felt tight on me and didn’t cover much area, meaning that I had to re-position my asset every time I needed to pee. But at least they held a substantial volume. So, in the few minutes that I had, I decided to see how a store-brand, adult-sized pull-up would fare on me.

The packaging looked promising. But it was when I held out a diaper that all my expectations evaporated. Within a minute of putting it on, I began to regret my earlier decision.

The fitting was not snug and tight, the padded area was not big enough to cover my male assets and as I would discover the next morning, even under controlled conditions, liquid escaped through the top and sides as the elastic gathers were not water resistant.

The one thing good about these particular pull-ups is that they hold about 2 medium wettings. But what’s the point if it can’t direct the liquid into the padded area?

The main aims of a diaper would be to catch any emissions in order to protect the wearer’s clothes and thus dignity, and to keep the wearer comfortable to a large extent by being a good fit and not being noisy etc. I feel that these pull-ups fail in the first aim, at least for male wearers.

I regret giving pull-up style diapers a second chance.

– Selv

What has happened to Control Plus Diapers?

Some of you may have realised that the once-popular Control Plus Diaper brand has been unavailable for a while. I too have been distraught that a good diaper brand has disappeared from supermarket shelves, so I’ve been doing a little research.

SCA is a global hygiene and paper products company that is based in Stockholm, Sweden. In ABDL circles, it is best known as the maker of the fabled Tena Slip Maxi diapers. And as with other major global corporations, SCA has been operating regional offices. In Asia, these were sited in Taiwan, Korea and Malaysia. Let’s take a closer look at the Malaysian one.

The Control Plus adult diaper brand was originally owned by Drypers Malaysia, which marketed the Drypers baby diapers. In March 2004, these 2 brands were the leaders of their respective markets. Then SCA came along and acquired Drypers Malaysia to become SCA Hygiene Products Malaysia, and it was nearly business as usual. Except that nearly 10 years later, these 2 brands were no longer the leaders in their respective fields.

(Sidenote: Today, the competition in SG and MY is so stiff that no one company dares to claim that it is the market leader for adult diapers.)

Now that SCA had managed to acquire the market leading brands of the region, it did what many expected it to do – expand on its existing brands, without worry about it’s newest additions. After all, if the money didn’t go to the left pocket, it was going to the right pocket.

The Tena Value Adult diapers were already present, but SCA could now introduce its other Tena diapers at the expense of Control Plus. SCA also introduced the Dr.P adult diaper brand to Southeast Asia. It was a cheaper brand with a fitting that was suited for most local users. Thus, the sales of the Control Plus lines plummeted.

Enter Vinda Holdings, a company based in China that deals with tissue papers. In November 2013, SCA International managed to become the majority shareholder of Vinda Holdings, the third-largest tissue company in China. As part of the agreement, the latter, now Vinda International Holdings, was to acquire the above-mentioned three SCA regional offices in Taiwan, Korea and Malaysia. That agreement was signed recently, on 1st April 2016.

With the operations getting bigger and bigger, it was no wonder that Vinda, which manages the regional operations of its’ owner, decided to trim back on its offerings. In the adult diaper segment, it already was managing the Tena and Dr.P lines, both of which cater to different segments of the market with wide ranges each. With a market that has fierce competition from house-brand adult diapers and with the sales of the 2-product Control Plus line near rock bottom, the brand has slipped into history.

I have written to a few places seeking an answer, will update this post with their replies.

Until then, we will have to make do with other brands. One thing that this has impressed upon me is that there will always be changes, and that we shouldn’t get too attached to items, even if our dignity or pleasure depends on it.

– Selv

Wearing Diapers To Class

To start off, I would not advocate doing this if you can avoid it.

I picked a day where I had just 1 lecture, in the afternoon. My day started off pretty normally. I left my room early and headed to the main library to do some work. One issue I had was extricating my diapers. I didn’t have a chance to do it the night before, and I was *almost* caught in the morning by my pesky roommate, who was pretending to be asleep but wasn’t.

Anyway, the diaper came online around lunchtime. Once I had eaten my lunch, I set off to a secluded toilet not far off from my lecture venue. Except, it was toilet cleaning time. My carefully calibrated timing was in jeopardy. Deciding to go in a little late, I decided to climb one floor. Thankfully, no one was in that toilet. I locked myself into a cubicle and started to put on my diaper.

My chosen diaper for the day was the Tena Slip Super. It was cloth-backed, hence essentially noiseless, and it held vast volumes. I quickly put it on, and headed for my lecture. I realised that my shirt did not stretch down to cover the bottom part of my butt, but it was sufficiently covered. Thankfully, there was no unusual bulge.

I decided to sit apart from my two friends. And I sat at that spot for the entire 3 hour lecture. For some reason, I didn’t need to pee. But I wasn’t complaining.

After the lecture, I returned to the library. And there I was, from about 5pm all the way till eleven. I was there, doing my work at my pace. But no one suspected anything unusual. They probably didn’t notice that I hardly got up, except to eat dinner. But the PRC students whom I was surrounded by were plugged into their music and hardly batted an eye when a hot student walked past.

Anyway, the time had come for me to leave. It was late and I decided to walk to my hall. Luckily, my roommate was preoccupied with his FIFA online game, and I was able to retrieve my shower things without much ado.

Went into the common bathroom shower cubicle, stripped. And my stomach rumbles. I start going, and pretty soon, it is time for me to take off the diaper. A full 10 hours had passed and I must add, kudos to Tena for making a worthy product that belt 3 bladderfulls for that long.

I realise that it is not impossible to wear in school. But I don’t think it is sustainable. For one, I was very conscious that people were looking at my butt. My schoolbag did cover my butt, but I was worried that with more pee, the greater the possibility of bulges. For another, I was scared that my pee would start to smell. And while the diaper didn’t swell up significantly, there still was some noticeable swelling, which was a little uncomfortable for my man parts.

The biggest issue was that I spent zero minutes with my friends that day. I was too scared that they would notice. This will be the one thing that will prevent me from repeating this experiment in the near future. Unless I find a friend who is willing to try it out too. I also did not change my diaper that day, and there is a host of problems that may erupt if something goes wrong.

In summary, this was an eye-opening experiment. I now understand a tiny bit of the fears and insecurities that incontinent people experience. It is really difficult for them to manage it, all by themselves.

It is not worth the hassle to do it again.

– Selv

When It Comes To Siblings Who Are Diapered

So, Siblings Day just passed a week ago, so I thought of writing about something different today.

Sometimes, I wonder what would life be like if either of my two younger sisters still need diapers to this day. I did come close to finding out, as my first sister was a bed wetter around the time she started having her first periods. My parents bought for her some goodnights, but thankfully, she didn’t need the whole pack.

But this is a topic which does get mentioned from time to time. What would it be like if a younger sibling needed diapers. Or even for that matter, an older sister needed goodnights for bedwetting? How would it affect the sibling relationship. Would it even be healthy? This is a topic which many ABDL stories love to explore. The younger sister controls the older sister’s night-time diapers. The twin brother wears diapers too to make his twin sister feel better. The older sister tries to be understanding of her younger brother’s ‘desire’ to wear diapers etc etc. But what about real-life stories?

Not surprisingly, it is very hard to find examples of sibling accounts on the internet. This is understandable, as they love their siblings too much to want to hurt them, or simply have been warned by their parents not to say a word. But from time-to-time, there are snippets of these type of stories mentioned on the ABDL forums once in a while. Things like “my neighbour once mentioned that his 8 yo sister still wore nappies at night. But I never asked him about it.” Never more, usually less.

Think about it – would you want to tell your friends that your younger sister still needs to wear diapers at night? Those friends will certainly laugh at her the next time they see her. No matter how much you profess to hate her, want to hurt her, you will never do it. Except, nowadays, it is getting very common for kids as old as 10 to still need pull-ups for bed. In that sense, some would be de-sensitised, and might end up telling their closest friend, much to the chagrin of their sibling. But hey, the paradigm, or view, that older kids don’t wear night-time diapers, is shifting.

But you see, bedwetting is a very common thing among young kids. In fact, when you go to gatherings, some mothers blatantly admit that their 8 yo kid still wets the bed, even as the poor kid looks on. On one count, bedwetting rates are going up. This is probably due to girls starting their periodic cycles earlier in life, and their young bodies are not able to cope, and absorbent disposable diapers hampering toilet-training.

On the second count, parents are no longer shying away from the fact, and are actively seeking advice on the matter. It may or may not be medical advice, but they are willing to shed the stigma and embarrassment to seek a cure their daughter’s (or son’s) condition. They are just concerned as any parent would be, and only want the best for their children.

The third count concerns those seeking to make money out of this situation. Mainly the diaper manufacturers. That is why they make Pampers up till size 7 (though these are very hard to get in Singapore), and even ‘young adult diapers’ (Dr.P Junior Size XS). Goodnights are very much preferred, as they work like underwear. Cloth diapers are cheaper over the long run, but nobody nowadays wants to deal with the washing. Then there are the under sheets, rubber sheets and things like bedwetting alarms. There are also the paediatricians…

As you can see, kids are slowly being desensitised to wearing diapers. Yet, they would never admit that they actually do. Why? Society still thinks that diapers are for babies and the elderly. Children, being afraid of ridicule by their friends, and trying to project a strong image in order to fit in, would never admit that they can’t control their pee at night.

Which brings us back to the topic of siblings. All people with siblings undergo their various forms of sibling rivalry. When they are young kids, say primary school age, they may not know the consequences of what they say. As such, in an act of spite, they might blurt out that their sibling needs diapers. There will be crying, a small amount of ridicule, punishment by the parent, the teacher might punish the group/class. But kids being kids, they would forget about the matter after a few weeks/months. The victim might be emotionally scarred, but they will heal after a bit. And usually, the bedwetting would stop by then.

Howeven when kids progress to secondary school and beyond, they get much more mature. They know that if they mention such a personal secret, their sibling’s future may be compromised. But usually, the real thing that would stop a kid from mentioning that secret would be that the other sibling would have enough dirt on him to cover himself/herself. Love would be the third thing that keeps them in check. They know that their sibling would be greatly upset, saddened and depressed by such a revelation, so, they wouldn’t tell on them.

I felt bad when my sister first stared bedwetting. I tried to comfort her, tried tell her that is was okay, but she beat me away… Mother told me and my then 6 yo sister to stay away, which we did. We felt even worse when the bedwetting didn’t stop after 3 days, and my mother turned up with a pack of goodnights. She and dad talked to her alone, and had to persuade her into wearing it. Then the 2 of us were called in and we were made to promise to never talk about the topic ever again. We promised.

Think about it. A young girl suddenly gets her cramps. Her body starts to change. Suddenly, she starts to wet the bed. And then she is compelled to wear things that ‘only babies wear’! How would you feel if you went through that much emotional trauma?

In my opinion, this is the reason why siblings don’t tell on their sisters/brothers. They saw them cry their eyes out, highly troubled by the fact. They saw them lose sleep, wake up wet and embarrassed. Then there was the horrid smell. They did not like their diapers one bit, and there was nothing that they could do about it. And there was nothing that the sibling could do to comfort them. That is reason enough to keep quiet.

All of these things that I’ve mentioned pertain specifically to the realm of bedwetters. I haven’t talked about people who need their diapers for pooping. So stay tuned for part 2…

-Selv

Grocery Shopping

A week ago, I was out grocery shopping at the nearby (New-Town) centre. I had bought my stuff and was on my way home when I bumped into an old neighbour, who had moved into her son’s house a few years ago.

We exchanged the usual formalities (How are you, how’s your health; Look at you, how you have grown). We talked for a bit. I asked her about her husband. And she said something unexpected. She said, and I translate, “My husband is bedridden, he needs to wear Pampers. Look here”, she said. And she showed me what she was carrying in her plastic bags – 2 bags of adult diapers. I hadn’t noticed them, and I stood there, a little unsure of how to react. We parted ways and I carried on home.

That little encounter made me think. The vast majority of people who use diapers fall into the category of the elderly – those highly dependant on others. I had seen my grandmother go through this too. It was a very sad moment, as I saw an old woman lamenting about the poor state of her husband’s health. I wanted to say something to comfort her. I also wanted to tell her that the diapers that she had bought were of poor quality, but that would have been a PR disaster.

I guess this was a reminder for me, a reminder that what I do as a DL is not the most socially acceptable thing.

I did not wear my weekly saturday diaper that week.

– Selv

The Cloth vs. Plastic Debate

I believe that all of us have engaged in this debate in one form or another. And we have good reasons for doing so, for it is going to affect our way of life. For better or worse, you might ask. Let us explore this topic a little then.

We have been hearing stories of just how many manufacturers have been switching from plastic-backed to cloth-backed products. Abena, Tena, Molicare, you name it. But why is this mass migration taking place? It all boils down somewhat to an obscure 2009 EU Ecolabel regulation on sanitary products. In a nutshell, it intends to regulate the environmental impact of all sanitary products, of which incontinence products, including diapers, are included. The only tangible benefit is that environmentally-conscious consumers will be drawn to products carrying this EU Ecolabel logo.

But the real driving force comes from the vast consumer base of the diaper manufacturers themselves. You see, any good business will do their research studiously. They will reach out to their customers and end-users, and the good businesses will take steps to address their needs and concerns. If not, they simply will lose their customers. It is important to note at this juncture that the bulk of the target group would be people like the elderly, terminally ill, and the incontinent. The other two groups – ABDLs and longshiftworkers – form a small proportion of these businesses.

Plastic-bcked diapers have been the norm for many years. We know them as the reliable one-piece backing garment that is very good with water-retention. You’d adjust the tapes at most once, and they retain their stickiness for a very long period. People are also very attached to plastic-backed as most ABDLs wore plastic-backed disposables themselves when they were kids. Yet, we all can’t ignore the two biggest drawbacks of plastic – their crinkles are very noisy, which reduces discreteness. They also have a notorious reputation for trapping heat, which can be very uncomfortable if you live in a tropical country like Singapore.

Cloth-backed diapers are new and emerging. First the baby diapers started the switch, but it took several years, and some EU policy *coughs unceremoniously* before adult diapers followed suit. Breathable? Not everyone agrees on this one, see below. Low-adhesive tapes? Everyone agrees on this, though Tena has some good tapes. But when it comes to discreetness, I think cloth wins hands down. Admittedly, the biggest drawback for me is that price wise, they have some catching up to do. (I can get 24 Tena Values for the price of 12 Tena Slips).

But I guess that the biggest misconception that the diapered-public has about cloth-backed diapers is this. They have a plastic-backing too. Only, it is directly under the padding area only and it is very thin.

 Diaper Meme

Yes folks, the truth is out. This explains so much about cloth’s shortcomings! Liquid in over-soaked diapers simply escapes out of the sides. The sides are the portion that is breathable. So, in researching for this post, I’ve come to realise that when I buy a cloth-backed diaper, I am actually buying a plastic-backed diaper with a cloth cover. No wonder these are so pricey.

And that is the ‘dirty’ truth about cloth-backed. The fact is, the majority of tape-on diaper users want cloth-backed. And given that the big players European players i.e Abena and Tena are already switching to cloth, it is only a matter of time before the smaller players and their American counterparts bite the bullet.

Fortunately, there is a ray of hope. Two rays, to be exact. The first is the fact that these big companies haven’t completely shut down their plastic-backed lines. Remember, there are the incontinents who prefer plastic too. The older plastic Abena and the Tena Value (Tena Slip Original in Europe) are a testament to this. Then there are also the ABDL-centric diaper manufacturers. Bambino, Fabines, ABU(though it seems everyone is boycotting them). There are the newer manufacturers, such as AwwSoCute and Diaper Connoisseur. So, plastic will live on.

But I realise that many people are not giving cloth a second chance. They try a pack or two, and they conclude that it is not their type. I respect their conclusion. It is just that I feel many of these people aren’t giving enough time and effort into making it work for them. It is just like getting a new phone. If you’ve been on iPhones (3GS, 4S, 5S) for many years and you try out a Samsung Galaxy Note 4, you just can’t get the hang of it in a week. It would take several weeks before you get around its visible flaws and discover the hidden benefits.

For me, discreetness is top priority, and as I spend most of my time diapered asleep, wetness is not an issue. So cloth-backed is my preferred backing. Sadly, these are just too expensive, and I only get them as a special treat.

What I really wish is for the greater ABDL community to give cloth a greater chance, and more time before writing them off. The vast majority simply swear by plastic, and I wish that they would try out various cloth-backed brands before coming to their conclusion. I am sure that they have tried several plastic-backed brands before choosing their ‘favourite diaper’.

– Selv

Does Wearing Diapers Affect One’s Social Life?

A guy sits at his work desk typing away at his computer for hours. A female executive stands in front of her company’s boardroom doing a presentation. A schoolgirl attends lesson after lesson in school, while a salesperson stands at the cashier, scanning and packaging his customer’s groceries at a supermarket. Ordinary people do ordinary things, even as their clothes hide their incontinence aids.

If you look around all the ABDL and incontinence support sites which attempt to answer this question, most agree that wearing diapers need not hinder your personal aspirations, nor should they stop you from having fun and leading a quality life. By and large, society accepts incontinent folk into their midst, and is somewhat understanding of their predicament.

Yet, school and work is not all that defines a person. Interpersonal relationships also play a part in defining who a person is. A person’s first impression, their language and accent, their fashion style etc. all affect the way others interact with them. Anything abnormal about the person, he/she gets judged – immediately. That is human nature. So throw in the fact that you wear diapers, and you fuel that negative judgement. Mention that you don’t actually need them, and you’d probably damage that relationship.

Incontinent folk don’t have it easy. The need to wear a bulging undergarment, and having to regularly change it would definitely affect their quality of life, as well as that of their closest friends and partners. Friends would have to be mindful of not making toilet-jokes, catering time for their friend to change, making them feel that they can do things despite their dependence on their special underwear. Yet, the social impact here is small, and somewhat socially manageable because the person’s thinking is perceived as normal. Thus clubbing, going out, even sport is possible.

But ABDLs wanting to wear diapers would be in for a rough ride should they choose to pursue being diapered 24/7 without any medical need. These group of people would face the same set of physical challenges i.e finding clothes to mask the diaper, masking the smell, chafing etc. But here, the people around them would be faced with an individual whose thinking is truly unconventional. ‘Why would you WANT diapers when you don’t need them’, they may ask. Often the ABDL’s answer would suggest either a fetistic desire, or an unexplainable ‘inner’ desire. This idea – that this person wants to do something ‘abnormal’ just just because he/she FEELS it would be a turn off for many.

Then there is also the ABDL camp who uses diapers part-time e.g. at night, when home alone etc. This is the category which is very commonly seen. The person could go about their day-to day life just like anyone else. Their school/work, social life could be as ubiquitous as anyone else. This is because the fact that they wear diapers could be well hidden from almost everyone, thus if you work hard to fit into your society, your social life (and indeed your quality of life) should be good.

The problem with the all the above is when it is time to reveal your dependence on diapers to your significant other. For them, it could go either way, from wishing to indulge in diapers too, declaring neutrality, to totally demanding a stop to them. This is something that is beyond your control, something that is dependent on the other party. That is why most ABDLs are asked to focus on building the relationship first, so the relationship is about the couple, not their quirks! Even so, conventional wisdom suggests that one reveals their diapered needs and desires to their significant other BEFORE proposing to them. If you are at the receiving end of the proposal, then do it just after the proposal. Issues such as financing diapers (Monthly it could be $83 for 24/7, $16 for once daily), specific times to use them etc. would need to be worked out.

I’m focusing on the mental aspect of one’s social life in this post, as the physical nature has been analysed over and over again, all over the web. The same things will crop up i.e the need to wear loose fitting clothes, tight short skirts for women would be an issue, chafing while doing exercise, sports and heavy physical activities, the hassle of finding places outside to change regularly to mask smells of pee and poop, added padded comfort while sitting on hard seats, no need to leave your actives halfway to go use the bathroom, no need for extra pads for women on their periods… The list goes on and on.

We shall omit parental views here, for more often than not, they will cover your ass whether or not they agree with your views on being diapered.

In conclusion, I would say that the impact for the incontinent folk is significant, but it can be greatly minimised. But for the ABDL, even the part-timer, wearing diapers can affect one’s social live adversely if you flaunt your diaper to other people who are not in the community.