L Size Diapers For An M Sized Person

So, in a scene reminiscent of an episode last year, I saw, left in the same spot as before, a pack of diapers sitting beside a dustbin. Tena Value Institution diapers. Being the cash-strapped, diaper-missing person that I am (who also needed the toilet at that moment), I put my bag down, rounded the dustbin and picked up the diapers.

It was only when I had returned to my bag did I realise that it was an OPEN bag, of size L diapers. The contents didn’t seem contaminated with dirt or dust, and I decided to bring it home with me. After all, the cleaners would have thrown it away the next morning anyway, and it’s first come-first serve.

While the packaging wasn’t dirty or anything, I did clean the outside as well as the exposed tips. 8 extra dips, yay!

But as I opened up a diaper, it was apparent how BIG the thing was. I mean, who was I kidding? It’s meant for hip size 114-147cm (45-58in) and mine is below 80cm. And no matter how high I positioned the diaper, it wasn’t giving a snug fit… until I pulled the lower tapes higher than usual. My assets had more room, and importantly, the leg gathers still snugly fit around my bottom, ensuring a tight seal against the forthcoming eruption.

But beyond the physical part, as I lay in bed that night, something about this diaper rekindled the first time I ever wore adult diapers. I was a scrawny teenaged boy, and the S sized diapers were sold in packs of 30 and were too expensive. So I bought M sized ones. And I had this feeling of oversized comfort as I put those on, a feeling I experienced again when I wore L sized diapers for the first time years later.

I’ve always been used to tight-fitting diapers because M sizes are big for me, but S sizes are too small. So on the M diapers I’ve had to bring the tapes close to each other, until recent times when the gap started to widen and the diapers fit much more snugly.

And I kind of like this loose, snug feel that the Ls provide. Plus, it’s a plastic-backed diaper so that adds to the soothing comfort. The high-riding diaper means my hips don’t feel the tightness when the diaper is full of liquid.

I guess I now understand why ABDLs like to wear oversized diapers – it’s because of this phenomenon. The fit, the snugness, the slight oversized element… It’s like a toddler wearing his diaper without worry, rather than an older child squeezing into her diaper meant for a younger kid.

I saw a six or seven year old walk out of a tuition centre in Tampines Mall and into a toilet, her hands held by her teacher. She was visibly upset. But it was what was in the teacher’s hands that caught my eye – a Drypers diaper and some wipes. The smell was also quite strong.

I really, truly pity her, because she must have been terribly teased by her classmates afterward. Tweens are particularly nasty towards those who are different. It’s not so much the accident, those are common, but rather, it’s the diaper. If only the teacher had some tact in handling the case, it would have been better for the poor kid.

– Selv

Where To Buy Diapers In Singapore

There are a few options when it comes to buying diapers. You could buy them online, or from a brick-and-mortar shop. Some people like to shop online as it offers them the privacy and a wider range of available products to choose from. However, some people choose to buy them from stores for a number of reasons.

Many people still buy incontinence products at stores because of the speed and convenience. The majority of such users are usually bedridden and/or incontinent, as such, caregivers would tend to focus on other aspects of caring for their loved ones. As such, the products available at the nearby supermarket would suffice of them.

There are several types of diapers and incontinence products. There are tape-on diapers, pull-up pants, pad-type as well as bed protectors. Many of these are available even at supermarkets but for this post I will concentrate only on tape-on diapers.

If you guys want to skip the lengthy details, you may read the last section for my views.

Supermarkets

Many of us would have noticed that supermarkets carry adult diapers. There would usually be a small section in the baby diaper section which has a small selection of adult diapers. Almost all supermarkets in Singapore carry the Tena Value brand, it is a well-known plastic-backed brand which is well regarded for its’ price as well as capacity.

Prime Supermarkets carry a modest selection of diapers. They carry the Certainty line, Dr. P (Basic) as well as Tena Value. They used to carry a few other brands but have since stopped. They don’t have house-brand diapers.

Sheng Siong Supermarkets also have a modest range. They carry Dr. P, Tena Pants, Prevail diapers, which are unique to Sheng Siong. as well as their store-brand Softess Diapers, which cost $5.80 for 10. They do not carry Tena Value, surprisingly.

Giant Supermarkets have a wider range. They carry the usual Certainty diapers, Tena Slip Super, Tena Value, Tena Pants as well as Lifree Super Absorb diapers. You can find several variants of the Dr. P line only at their Hypermarket in Tampines. They have their own house brand diapers, the Giant (Storebrand) diapers, costing $6.50 for 10, which must have an audience for them despite their quality, having been around for many years.

NTUC Fairprice takes the cake for the most types of diapers it offers. It carries Certainty, Lifree Super Absorb tape-ons and pants, Tena Pants, Tena Value as well as TWO house brand diapers. It’s ‘Budget’ line is, as the name suggests, a budget diaper which is surprisingly popular possibly due to its price of $5.75 for 10. It also has a premium line, the Fairprice Safe Control and the overnight version Extra Control. While these are more pricey than your average economy diaper, they aren’t as well regarded. Fairprice also has diaper samples on display, so customers can feel the diaper’s texture before purchasing.

Hospital and Polyclinic Pharmacies

There are several hospitals out there, but I shall mention two of these. The first would be Ng Teng Fong hospital. They carry Tena Value (Institution), Certainty, Tena Slip Super as well as Tena Slip Maxi.  The issue is with getting to this pharmacy involves going pretty far out of your way just to reach it. While it is theoretically on the same level, and connected to, the Jurong East MRT station it is a very long walk winding through two malls and three towers within Ng Teng Fong Hospital. They do not have an online site yet.

I find that the prices of the products are more or less the same. However, they carry the 28pack Tena Slip Super, being one of the 2 suppliers in Singapore. Given it is price it is very much worth paying a visit if you use the TSS regularly, however you should call to check before going as stocks are limited.

The Second hospital pharmacy worth mentioning is Changi General Hospital’s Pharmacy. This pharmacy carries the usual Tena Value (U.P.$10.40, currently $7.50), Tena Value Institution as well as Tena Slip Maxi. They also carry Molicare Mobile diapers, which are a range of pull-up style diapers. This pharmacy has an online website which provides delivery, which does not come in discreet packaging!

Most of the polyclinics in Singapore are run by the National Healthcare Group, which has its’ own website as well. It carries Tena Value ($10.90), Tena Value Institution, Certainty as well as Tena Slip Super and Maxi. While their outlets usually are missing stock, their website usually has stock. I haven’t tried their delivery service.

Specialty Stores

Now there are a number of homecare shops here and I’ll talk about 2- Rehabmart and SeniorCare Assisted Living.

Rehabmart has one of the widest range of adult diapers. They have the usual Tena Value ($9.00!), Dr P, Certainty. They also carry Lille SupremFit diapers (Blue, Grey), Tena Slip Plus and Super, Molicare Super, BW Ultra and Convifit.

There is SeniorCare Assisted Living, which carries a number of unique diapers. Besides their Certainty and Tena Pants, Tena Value (U.P. $9.90, currently $8.70!!!) and the 28pack TSS, they carry Nateen, Seni and Cleancare diapers.

Thoughts

If you have reached this far, congratulations for your skimming skills! A number of people have asked for a comparison of different sites and while this isn’t a thorough review (and shouldn’t be regarded as such), it should give you a glimpse on where to buy Adult Diapers in Singapore.

Speciality stores are a great place to get Economy and Premium diapers because they have big bargains, and bring in good brands in all sizes (S-XL). They may be slightly out of the way, but they all offer delivery options.

Pharmacies often give the illusion that prices are cheaper but this is only true if one purchases in bulk. Generally I avoid buying in pharmacies because they are often crowded and their diaper shelves are placed in very open spaces. Not forgetting that they are often out of the way. The only scenario I see if of me getting the 28pc TSS, otherwise no for me.

Then there are supermarkets. Supermarkets offer convenience and accessibility as they are everywhere. Often they have promotional pricing available so you would usually get a few dollars off if you do a little research. You are able to get budget diapers here as well. But privacy can be a nightmare, for these are usually located in malls and town centres. I usually go over to the next town to minimise the chances of that happening. Usually, convenience beats savings and I get most of my diapers from a Supermarket.

There is one last category which I didn’t mention and that is chain pharmacies. Only two carry diapers, NTUC’s Unity as well as Guardian. The former carries the exact same range as its’ Fairprice chain, plus TSS, while Guardian only carries it’s own brand of (in my opinion lousy) diapers.

So where do you get your diapers? Do let me know! I hope this post was informative and you were able to learn a thing or two.

– Selv

My First Diaper Vid on Youtube

Been wandering around, trying to revisit why I’m an ABDL and stuff. Been looking around to forge new friendships in the ABDL scene. I’ve also been looking at my pastor clues into my future.

Anyway, I got reminded about the first diaper video I ever watched on YouTube. It’s a scene from Bad Girls From Valley High. The main characters start to age rapidly after doing in a friend who’s ghost has returned to haunt them. One of these characters is wearing a green adult diaper.

I’m still curious what brand of diaper she was wearing, it’s a nice green thing like the usual white that we see everyday. I also realised years later that they added in the crinkles post-production, cos it is unlikely that they were this loud.

The original clip I watched in 2008 has disappeared, but someone has re-uploaded it, for me to share it here with you guys.

– Selv

P.S. I will make a diaper video one day, hopefully after my exams, but something that is hopefully not distasteful.

Diapers And Television

Pollution and environmental protection are not new ideas, they have been around for decades. In fact, disposable diapers were identified as a major source of trash that took up considerable landfill space. Toilets and sanitation facilities on the other hand were still switching to environmentally sensitive processing methods as late as the 80’s.

I came across this clip of an old 80’s Canadian TV show called ‘You Can’t Do That On Television’, it is a sit-com of the day that tried to spin the pollution idea with the idea that ‘only babies wear diapers, hence people will laugh if an older kid wearing them’. But it is objectively funny in itself.

Televisions were built to inform, but have been used to entertain for decades. It is when companies create entertainment with a spin of truth, that certain stereotypes form, e.g that diapers are for babies, that you must potty train by 2 etc. And as we move towards being an intelligent society, we must digest our entertainment with a pinch of salt.

You may watch it here.

 

– Selv

28 Diapers

Admittedly, this is one of my largest hauls ever, second to last month’s 30 diapers. But they were spread over 2 packs. It was when I was at the shop buying them that I thought to myself, why not try getting a ‘deluxe’ pack of diapers – the usual Tena Slip Super in a pack of 28 instead of the usual 10.

So I started to do my research and found out that yes, it was indeed value for money (I’ll come back to this in a bit), but I’d have to haul the bulk back on public transport, to my school hostel.

Obviously I decided it was worth the risk. So I started to comb the pharmacies in the west. The usual Unity, Guardian and Watsons chains didn’t carry it. The latter two didn’t even carry the TSS. Then I headed over to the Polyclinic pharmacies. But they don’t carry cloth-backed diaper varieties these days, save for some old stock like the 2014-era TSMs… manufactured in 2014 .

I wouldn’t call it a decline, it’s just that plastic-backed diapers are much cheaper. Most people don’t test the products on themselves before putting them on their loved ones, so they don’t know the difference it truly makes. Anyway, a budget diaper costs around 55-65c a piece while a premium economy diaper costs around 70-90c a piece. Most cloth-backs cost more than a dollar. Thus one would save a fair bit of money each month.

So I managed to locate a pharmacy, at Ng Teng Fong General Hospital (I still think it should be called Jurong East General Hospital, #moneypolitics).

The saleslady I spoke to was a little loud. Uncomfortably loud, in a cramped space filled with people. But otherwise she was professional, as she helped me check on the stock availability and price. She mentioned that very few places in Singapore carried the 28pc set, and that it usually was snapped up very quickly. They were usually used by stroke patients. Then she asked me ‘how many diapers a day was used’. I coyly replied 1 pack of 28 a month, and that was that, no question on who used them and for what.

In momentarily slipping up my math, I thought it was too expensive and I tried to slip away, but she already had my contact detail. As luck would have it, they were receiving a shipment of inventory the next day, which included just 4 packs of these 28pc TSSs. So she contacted me, and this was the message that I received.

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Yea, I appreciate you renaming me after my security blanket, thank you very much indeed.

I was arriving to pick up my package. By then the lady has sent me multiple texts and even called me to confirm AND direct me to a different pharmacy. More walking. Yay.

This pharmacy was empty, so I had a chat with the cashier. It was a casual chat, but she boasted that the prices in that pharmacy ‘are the best in Singapore’. So I paid $29.95 for 28 diapers, so that works out to be $1.07 per piece – a significant discount on the $1.41 to $1.57 per piece I usually pay.

Then the package came and boy was I in for a surprise. It was huge – but who was I kidding? That’s 28 diapers crammed in in there! Now there was the sticky issue of bringing it home. I know that I couldn’t take the train to school now, with the packaging visible and all.

So I decided my best bet was to take a series of busses to school. Waiting for the bus, on a sunny afternoon can be very distressing. Especially when your phone is about to run out of battery and the bus arrival timing was definitely off by 10 minutes. Eventually, I in my hostel.

But I only realised the strange thing about it once I was back in my hostel room – the diapers were the 2014 model… You can see how its stacked in two layers. I was kind of expecting the newer ones. Oh well, not that these are bad, I feel that they look better than the new ones. But the new ones are a fraction thinner and feel more snug, even though both are of the same cut.

– Selv

Size S Diapers

I bought a pack of Lille Supremfit Maxi recently. But I bought size S. To be certain, my waist size was still within the prescribed range of 60-100cm so I figured it should be ok. In any case, I had gone down to get a pack of size S Tena slip supers. But they were out of stock.

The staff on duty recommended that I get the S sized Lille SupremFit rather than the S sized Tena Slip Super. He pointed out that it was more value-for-money, but I suspect it was because he was out of stock for the latter.

I returned to my hostel, but was unable to wear them immediately. So when I eagerly put one on a few days later, I was disappointed to note it was a diaper for teenagers. I could only put on the top pair of tapes, which struggled to stick past my hip bones.

Performance-wise, they were able to hold a ton, even fully holding an 800ml enema flood, without leaking. Even though the back had been cut open to allow liquid to seep into a second diaper, the latter was dry.

BUT, since the fit was tight, I did experience leaks when lying down. The size S diaper fails to catch liquid in that position for me, even though my hip is within the prescribed range.

I had some issues with the M size diaper, mainly clumping which in turn tended to press against my male anatomy. But at least the M ones were able to catch liquid. The S ones did not have any clumping issues, so I’m guessing that Lille has made some improvements in the meantime. So I guess the lesson here is to wear a diaper in which you can tape on all the tapes – they serve as a guide to ensure that it can catch all liquid emissions.

But I’m thinking of stowing away the remaining size S LSFM diapers, or selling them. Wearing a diaper that doesn’t do its job for me isn’t working. Back to the TSS for me. Might try some other plastic-backed ones, now that I have a single hostel room.

– Selv

ABDLs and Toilet Training

Ah, a parenting pet peeve. We know that kids must be toilet trained by school-going age. But why?

The simple answer is economics. When humans began living in permanent settlements, we didn’t want to dirty our furniture and living spaces. Toilets were established as a way to consolidate this icky matter, and was often used by agrarian societies as fertiliser.

Diapers are expensive, and take effort to maintain. So why not fix certain locations where you do your thing, and forget about 5-times-a-day diaper changes? Besides, nobody wants to keep on wiping their child’s productions for years on end. You pay $xx for diapers at the supermarket. You don’t think about how much water you flush everyday when you see your water bill, do you?

Many ABs, DLs and Littles use diapers. They may be wearing for short periods, overnight, or even 24/7. They may use their diapers for one or both of its intended purposes. But that doesn’t mean that we were never toilet trained, or were trained super early or something. Rather, we feel it is an essential comfort item, or security blanket. A kid may or may not want to hug their teddy bear every night – similarly we want the security of our diapers.

Being toilet-trained does affect a child’s social life. Imagine needing to wear pull-ups during afternoon naps in kindergarten. Or being unable to attend a sleepover because a child refuses to poop in the toilet. Children can be a very nasty bunch.

Which leads to the question – what do we think about toilet training?

At first glance, it may seem that the community tries to discourage parents from toilet-training their kids early. Indeed, looking through the comments section in related youtube videos or mother care forums, you see this trend of people commenting and saying “no, don’t rush to potty-train them” or “is the kid trained now”.

Such comments make one think that ABDLs are a bunch of pedophiles. But netizens must understand that these small numbers of ‘internet trolls’ do not represent the rest of the community. There may be diaper fetishists who are behind these comments, but the ABDL community does not condone that kind of behaviour.

Subconsciously, people know that society requires that kids be toilet trained. Yet, since we still wear diapers, we are often curious to see if there is a correlation. Does late training lead to regression? Or does early training lead to regression? What family environment, what parental behaviour leads to a kid’s well-being, and does it mirror what we experienced when we were young? We seek answers to our own past when we sift through such data.

In fact, you see many ABDL parents actively training their kids at the appropriate age – just like any other parent. It is one of the first rites of passage for a human being. What they say about toilet training is never different from what others say. Never have I seen a case where an ABDL parent refused to train their kid, just because they are ABDLs!

Some people think toilet-training is a necessary evil. But I disagree with that label. Because while a child may cry, whine, be terrified, withhold their poop, get constipated and so on, eventually it conditions them to deal with a bodily need in a way that’s best for society’s good. Mountains of diapers in landfills?

Ultimately, I feel that as a diaper-wearing adult, revisiting this milestone helps me to think about the decisions that have shaped me into who I am. I was day-trained by 3, but only fully toilet-trained at 4+, late by Asian standards. My other cousins were trained by 3, but my youngest cousin sister would only poop in a diaper, until she was 4+. However our circumstances were very different, I was raised by my grandma while she was raised at daycare.

As long as we continue to wear diapers, people will continue to search for answers about why we were stopped from wearing diapers, and why we started again.

– Selv

A Long Term Temporary Routine

I have slowly been able to master the art of wearing every night, despite the presence of my roommate. In the mornings, I have also been able to do my morning routine while in my diaper, without alerting my roommate.

To their end, cloth-backed diapers have been a boon. My diaper of choice is the Tena Slip Super. They aren’t the most absorbent, but they are able to hold a decent amount of liquid. And with their new update, their retention ability is much improved.
I feel that wearing every night allows me to destress a little. I’ve been keeping up with this routine since end-october, with breaks of course. Again, avoiding having to sit on the toilet has also been a sort of thrill. I’ve never been afraid of sitting on the toilet, just that, like a preoccupied kid, I prefer the comfort of my own padding.
But as I gear up for the future, I know that this routine is temporary. A long-term temporary but yes, temporary. For I am not sure if my future wife will be accommodating of my nightly wish. Leave her if she does not accept you, I hear you say. But, given the struggle I am going through just to meet someone, walking away is a complex option.
Changing my soulmate’s diaper every morning just so that she doesn’t need to touch her own mess is something that I feel deeply about. Having a girl entrust you with her second-most intimate thing, every morning, is a weird wish. But why would a girl even want to agree?
Why do I harbour this innate desire to change a girl’s diaper? What’s wrong with my thinking? I consider myself moderately religious, yet I still have this ‘dirty’ thoughts. Why can’t I be like other normal people, who fantasise about having sex during exotic vacations? Why can’t I have the courage to ask a girl out, to even admit that I am her cultural group? Is it because I wear diapers? Is my wearing of diapers affecting my social life?
To be certain, diapering a girl is not a sexual thing for me. I’ve learnt to suppress my own erections because diapers aren’t sexual for me. I have long refused to admit (and still don’t) that I have a diaper fetish because the word fetish carries the connotation of being sexual. I would have to communicate this to her as well.
How will my soulmate react to the fact that I wear diapers not out of necessity? How further will she react when I tell her that I want her to poop in a diaper from time to time? How will I get the courage to tell her?
– Selv

Diapers On An MRT Ride

I woke up feeling like wearing a diaper to school one day. And that’s just what I did. Hopped onto a train and travelled east to west (55 minutes).

The train carriage was empty near the end of my trip, and I was feeling a little brave. So I decided to snap this picture. I’m pretty sure no one has taken a picture of themselves diapered on Singapore’s trains so I felt quite the adrenaline rush as I reviewed my photos, making sure that the Tena logo was visible.

In other news, I feel saddened to hear of the passing of the Thai King, and my heart goes out to the Thai people.

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Get diapered, stay comfy.

– Selv

Good Reasons To Wear Diapers In College

So here I am, uncontrollably going in my pants… Thankfully my diaper is in there too. The stomach bug is really getting onto my nerves. But I’ve spent an unusually significant portion of my time in diapers when I’ve been in my hostel room due to the incident that happened this week.

You see, living beside a forest has its perks. You get to see birds of paradise, cute squirrels and playful monkeys. But you also have to contend with wild boars and snakes. Urgh.

Sometimes they just come down the hill bordering the hall and they rummage through out barbequeue pit dustbins. But my hall is lucky in the sense that it is fenced in, so we only get anteaters. They come down, inspect the slippers outside our rooms before climbing up, satisfied that there’s nothing edible that hasn’t been left eaten.

But snakes! Those slithering villains like to hide in dark, wet places. And yes, toilets fit that description perfectly, especially at night after the auto-lights go off. My first floor toilet is a prime location, with my block located at the end of the cluster of halls, surrounded by forest. My peers don’t really get frightened too much. Girls might scream, guys might huff like a locomotive, but are usually calm enough to call campus security.

But still, the idea that a snake might be lurking in the toilet is reason enough to wear diapers, at least at night when they are active. They come in, possibly lured in by the presence of rats and field mice (and maybe by our resident hall cat?). Sometimes the bats in the trees die, and these present a snacking opportunity.

But there are plenty of reasons why you should wear diapers. For one, there’s the added benefit of not having to leave the comfort of your room, not having to interrupt your YouTube binge (Netflix hasn’t caught on here yet), or if you are the studious type, not having to get up from your notes.

Then there is the diaper itself – it acts as an extra layer of soft padding. Very useful when you are sitting for hours on a hard plastic chair. When you pee, the padding conveniently grows, until it nears capacity. Invest in a nighttime diaper, like the Tena Slip or Lille Suprem range. After all, you’d probably spend about 6-8 hours in the diaper.

I guess the downside is having to put on and take off the diaper. That can be done in the guise of taking a bath i.e. once you return to your room you shower, and put one on. In the morning before class, you shower and take it off. That’s what I do, and with a little bit of tweaking, can be done even when using communal toilets, like the ones at NTU. There’s also the noise, but that’s where you should invest in noiseless cloth-backed diapers.

And in case you’re wondering, yes, the snake in my hall’s toilet story is absolutely true, as captured in this CNA news article. I’m not not referred to in the article, so don’t ask. I only remember a whole lot of screaming and yelling, and I came out of my room to ask these people to shut-up. But then I saw the pest control people and the bulging sack, though I didn’t get to see the snake itself.

– Selv