Yet Another DCo Disagreement

There have been rumblings online over the lawsuit between ABU and Tykables over the word ‘space’. I read through some of the comments, some claiming that one of these companies have a better case and would likely win. Last I heard was that a restraining order had been filed against Tykables.

But one thought that kept bugging me: why fight? Our community is so small, why sow discord amongst ourselves? Why couldn’t they just settle it amongst themselves?

Got reminded of a Buzzfeed article I read about the time Rearz tried to trademark ‘ABDL’.  The owner dropped the case when people voiced out their opinions. I just hope that one of these companies takes the lead and leads this discussion offline and directly with each other. Remember, the rest of the world is watching our already-misunderstood community.

– Selv


The New Tena Value Hits Shelves

It’s been a while since I bought Tena Values, but I was reminiscing about them because they were my first ever Adult Diapers, and despite having a huge stash at the moment, I decided to get some.

The first thing that caught my eye was the ‘1 free diaper’. This meant I got 13 diapers for the price of S$10.10. Hmm, that’s strange, given that the line has been stable for some time.

Then I opened up a diaper. Still didn’t seem funny, until I saw the colour of the top-sheet  – the internal padding.

It is green!

Then I realised that the core of the diaper no longer had a firm bond with the plastic back-sheet of the diaper.

But otherwise, it still retains its standing leak guards and end-to-end frontal patch for the tapes. As far as I can remember from the previous iteration, its fitting (which is different from the slip line) hasn’t changed. The packaging, at first glance, hasn’t changed it’s design scheme apart from the ‘1 free diaper’ logo, which must have been why I was taken aback.

So that leaves the absorption, and that is something which I feel has gone down a little. Not a noticeable amount but yes, I feel it is lesser. The packaging now clearly displays a 5/9 drops rating.  So does that mean it is 55% of Tena’s maximum, compared to the TSP’s 75%? I still don’t get their rating, 1 drop is supposed to mean 200ml but it doesn’t feel like so.

Which leaves the question of the green backing – what is its use? Tena’s website says its is ‘a skin soothing layer with 4 botanical extracts’. I’ll admit, that the top-sheet does feel soft to the touch. But I’ll admit that I didn’t expect this in an economy diaper.

Overall, I feel that the new TSV’s look has improved, while keeping all of the good features it has been known for all these years, so I’m not going to complain. As for it’s absorbency I’ll admit that it is pretty good as it is so I’ll definitely continue to use it. The only thing that remains for now is to test out that green layer.

– Selv

Wearing Diapers in 2018

It feels funny to be writing this post without actually wearing a diaper, but many of the points came to me while I was wearing the Tena Slips from 2 posts back heheh.

Diapers have been my way to de-stress. Some people like to smoke, some people drink, some even run long distances. But I wear diapers, cos they help me relax. And every night in school, I’ve been wearing a diaper to sleep. It is a luxury many ABDLs don’t get, and to this end I am really thankful that I am able to do so.

I’ve mentioned previously that being a DL is a grey area with respect to my religion. Not directly at least, but it is implied. It is not against the law, I mean, there is no scripture that says what we do is wrong. The thing is we are dealing with humanly emissions and since they are considered unholy we have a conflict of interest here. So, I try to avoid wearing on certain “auspicious” days. This trend I think I’ll continue.

Then there are high intensity days, such as exam dates and family functions. My dad, when he caught me, used to say that I’ll be distracted because I’m wearing a diaper. Which is true to some extent. These days, I get distracted mostly due to the guilt of doing something my parents are against. But still, I will skip wearing them on these high intensity days, just so that I remain focused.

I aim to go on at least 3 diapered escapades this year, the first one I’m planing to go this late-February (do let me know if you guys are keen on a collaboration). Beyond just wearing diapers on backpacking trips I aim to build up a proper travel blog to document my journeys.

Then there is the whole affair of what to tell my future girlfriend. Somehow I have a feeling that this might be the year it finally happens, but I don’t want to open that can of worms here now. What I will say is that the search for an existing ABDL girl has failed, and my only way forward is to get a vanilla girl and hope she accepts this part of me. Fat hope –  but I must try.

Coming up this month would be my Tenth anniversary of wearing my first adult diaper. Need to think of a way to celebrate it, and I have a rough idea on how to do it. I’ll keep you guys posted.

And finally, I’ve been thinking about starting a Patreon page. I had done the preparations, but Patreon threw a spanner in the works with their recent fees announcement. So that is something I’ve been trying to tread carefully. *EDIT* Of course, special content that warrants a Patreon page on on the cards, but more on that very soon.

Last (but not least), I wish to thank all of you who have been writing PMs and emails to me. Thank you guys, it has really been a pleasure writing to all of you, I really appreciate the time and effort you guys put in to writing to me.

– Selv


I Bought A Case

Being the money-scrimping student that I am, I figured out long ago that I could probably save a lot of money on diapers if I bought in bulk.

My favourite diaper is the Tena Slip Super. It is super comfy in that it has just the right fit,  is cloth-backed, and has the right amount of absorbency for an overnighter. So I’ve been on the lookout for deals on it, as well as its cousin the Tena Slip Plus. On an ordinary day I’d usually have to fork out $14.15 for a pack of 10 diapers, which corresponds to $1.41 per diaper.

There are some periods where there are discounts available on these usual TSS packs, and I’d be able to get them for about $12 per pack of 10. Still, it was much higher than a TSP diaper which clocked in at about 93c per diaper.

Then, I had the 28 pack TSS haul back in March. That one I got for $29.95, or $1.07 per diaper. I thought it was a significant price drop . But I was put off by having to lug it over to my university room without a way to conceal it. Here’s a recap on my thoughts there.

With the price being very high, I had to settle on using TSPs, which were having their own set of promotions which meant lower prices. But I kept looking out for discounted prices, and I knew that online sites had several of them. Lazada and Carousell had some great steals. Carousell in particular had several bargains, especially on case purchases.

But how on earth would I bring a case of diapers on public transport? There was no point taking a taxi all the way to my university, it’s about $30. And no way was I going to Uberpool or GrabHitch, the driver would know my identity. Nope, I had to borrow my dad’s car, on a one-off trip to school, during the holidays. And so I waited.

Months after I first saw the ad on Carousell, I arranged to deal with that seller. The ad didn’t say anything about stocks running out or stuff, and no weird questions were asked  by the seller except for a small request to deal again in the future.

Quickly, I drove over to my school, dragged the box with a huge Tena logo up to my room, dumped it in a corner and ran off for my meeting. It only was later in the evening that I was able to relish my savings; I had gotten a case of 6 packs of 10 Tena Slip Supers for $50. That’s 83c per diaper!

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Admittedly it’s way more expensive than an equivalent case of plastic-backed diapers like the Tena Value, but I felt like I really saved quite a bit of money. This case also had the distinction of being my largest ever haul of diapers, at 60 pieces in one go!

– Selv


If Kids Never Quit…

Sometimes parents worry about how their kid may never give up ‘that babyish thing’. Like when their six year old kid is still drinking from a milk bottle every night, or still wears diapers.

This video is in part a parody on this concept, of how much parents, mums in particular, worry when their kid hasn’t ‘given it up yet’. It’s also supposed to motivate parents to press on, but not to woes too much as they eventually will get it, that nobody doesn’t just stay in diapers… right?

But the thing is, such people do exist. Welcome to the ABDL community! Yea, we do give up our diapers, bottles, pacis for a couple of years but it restarts anyway. Yup, we wonder about what if we hadn’t become ABDLAnd yup, we are proud of it mostly, just like the ladies in the video!

You can watch this video here.

– Selv


Sensationalising Diapers?

I was reading a Channel NewsAsia article earlier this month about how a nursing home in Tokyo promotes independence in their residents. This concept is good for the seniors living there as it helps them regain their dignity and mobility.

But seeing the word ‘diapers’ in the title should have prepared me for the emphasis about it in the article.

Like how the article quotes how diapers are taken off when the resident first arrives. Sounds like a kindergarten removing a kid’s diaper. I found that sentence very iffy, but maybe that’s cos I’m an ABDL.

And how ‘other’ nursing homes use laxatives to manage constipation, resulting in diarrhoea in which diapers are used to contain it. Somehow I feel that this is a general statement, too general to reflect what’s really happening. Because you don’t use diapers just to manage bowel incontinence, they are used to control day and nighttime wetting too. I feel that the ‘poop is shocking’ factor was deployed here.

But what the article definitely got right was the part where seniors find it embarrassing to wear diapers. One’s bodily functions often remind us of our humanness and when another person has to take control of it, we feel that we lose that humanness. They could have mentioned it more in detail.

I think that this nursing home is on the right path, and it is something that the Singapore government can push nursing homes here to emulate. With the first such centre opening in a few years, it is the right step in caring for our pioneer generation.

As for this article, while it did sensationalise the diaper segment, it did a pretty good job in reporting some of the struggles faced by a resident of nursing homes.

– Selv


Soldier Without Diapers

I’m currently away for my annual reservist training, in a far-flung corner of this island. The annual pilgrimage to the chicken cutlet stall… I mean army refresher training is something we have to do every year. 
So I was packing my Army duffel bag on Sunday night. The list of things to bring is big but we managed to leave out certain items. 

I was packing my bag in the living room of my living room. I’d already changed into my nighttime diaper – a Tena Slip Plus – wearing a baggy pair of pants over it. They did a decent job of covering the shape thankfully, cos my mum and grandma were nearby, watching TV. 

I felt the contrast while packing. Here I was, on one hand a grown man packing for my reservist training to defend the country and on the other, I had just put on a diaper because I wanted to poop, using the excuse that I was going to wear that diaper for the night.

Being away from home for a week means no diapers for me. While it isn’t a problem for me, it made me realize how it’s just a psychological thing. I didn’t think about diapers during my overseas CIP, and I’m pretty sure I won’t think much about it during my reservist. 

It’s only when I’m alone in my room that I get that urge, that urge to ‘get protected’, to be enclosed in my safe space. My attendance for this reservist supposedly ensures my country’s safe space. I guess this is but another sacrifice I have to make. 

– Selv


The Traffic Offence – Short Story

Happy Fourth of July to my American friends! Here’s a short story I’ve written, something different from my usual posts.

“I need to buy more diapers tomorrow,” Annette thought to herself as she entered her room. It was just past nine at night, and she had just taken her shower. Closing the door, she knelt down towards her closet, disregarding her unravelling towel and the ominous rumble in her tummy.

She rummaged through her lower drawer, to retrieve a diaper for the night. The Tena Slip Super packaging was empty. The Abena AbriForm packaging was empty too. How about the Lille SupremFits? What, it was empty too?

Annette stood up, as the realisation dawned on her that she was out of diapers. She first sat on her bed, then lay down, realising that her mistake meant no diapers for the night. She bit her lip as she thought. It had been at least five years since she last wet the be so it wasn’t an issue, but the thought of having to poop on the toilet in the morning started to gnaw at her already upset tummy. She stood up.

Quickly, she pulled on a pair of jeans and a school t-shirt, and grabbed her keys. ‘I need my diapers tonight,’ she muttered to herself as she locked her room and descended the stairs of her university hostel.

She got onto her motorcycle, a Bajaj Pulsar, and kick-started the engine. It quickly roared to life. Soon, she was speeding out of the carpark and onto the Avenue. The track adjacent was full of joggers whom Annette noticed turned to look at her, as they always did when she zoomed past. But she ignored them and started thinking about where she could get her security padding at this hour.

She wanted to get her hands on some Tena Slips, but knew that the bigger pharmacies were likely to be closed. She settled on getting some Tena Values diapers. They were plastic-backed, but at least they held a decent amount of liquid. As she tore down the streets towards her destination, she was acutely aware of the worsening cramps in her stomach.

Quickly, Annette parked her bike. She clenched her stomach, and as she took off her helmet she tried to let out some gas to relieve the pressure, which was unexpectedly loud. But there wasn’t anyone nearby. She quickly walked over to the supermarket. It was nearly closing time, but she had made it in time. She walked slowly towards the diaper section, taking small detours, well aware that the weary staff were eyeing the last customer of the day.

She quickly bent down to compare the prices. Yes, the Tena Values were still more value-for-money than Certainty Diapers and the other house-brand diapers. So she quickly picked up an M sized pack, and, with her stomach now throbbing in earnest, limped towards the cashier.

The old lady at the counter raised an eyebrow at her purchase, but said nothing. Annette felt herself freezing as she farted again, and to her horror, the sound she made was barely audible. The cashier chuckled as she handed her change to her.

“Go, quickly,” she added jokingly. But Annette was not amused.

“That are not for me, its for my grandma,” she lied flatly as she grabbed the package and turned to leave.

But she had taken no more than ten steps when she knew that she needed to go right then. So she headed towards the nearby toilets to put one on. She repeatedly thanked her lucky stars that there wasn’t anyone who was nearby to hear the loud crinkling she was making as she hurried to put on her diaper. And as she attached the last tape, she realised that she didn’t have any wet wipes with her.

She took a deep breath to calm herself down – regretting immediately as the stench of the toilet hit her – before grudgingly smoothening out her diaper and pulling on her jeans. She grabbed the plastic bag containing her purchase, and headed towards the carpark. Quickly starting her motorcycle, she willed her stomach to cooperate, put her purchase in her rear box, and sat down on her machine.

The padding helped soothe her nerves a little, so she put the bike in gear and set off. Turn left onto the main street, then she would be back in her hostel in ten minutes before she got her sweet relief. However the intensity of her impending tsunami get magnifying, so she cranked the throttle and blazed towards her hostel, doing 100 in a 60kmph zone. Just get this over with, she thought to herself.

She turned the corner, and a part of her died when she saw it. The unmistakable action of a traffic police officer gesturing her towards the pavement, meant that she was definitely a fly caught in their notoriously random sting operation. And as she stood peeing herself as the charge was read out to her, the eight demerit points and possible $120 fine didn’t bother her as much as the seismic moment she knew was going to happen in 5…4…3…2…1…

“Alright Miss, since you weren’t driving under the influence of alcohol we will let you go for now. We will send the offence notice to your registered address, and you can leave once you sign this… Miss, are you alright?”

Annette’s face went a bright shade of red as she started to grunt. Bending her knees slightly, her left hand slightly reached out behind her.  She lost attention to what was happening and focused on relieving herself, completely ignoring the police officer who was not much older than herself. Perplexed, he took a step back, surveying her unusual posture. Was she really pooping, or was she about to puke?

Noticing the awkward position she had put him in, she took the document and signed it, before turning to walk away. She waddled slightly, cringing as all the officers eyed her and her exposed jeans, her shirt doing little to shield it. Lifting her bike off its stand, she swung a leg over, before cringing as she sat down. She heard an ‘OMG’ from an officer.

As she rode off into the night, she reflected to herself that she had uncontrollably messed herself in front of a police officer. She hoped that it wouldn’t be recorded down in the offence notice that her dad was sure to open.

– Story by me


Mustafa’s Collection

There’s a saying here, that if you need it, Mustafa’s probably has it. It’s one of Singapore’s best shopping malls simply because it houses the largest variety of things, all under one roof. Phones, shoes, toys, medication, souvenirs… you name it and they will have it.

Naturally I’ve been wanting to go down to see what diaper brands they carry. But home’s in the east and school’s in the west, so I’ve been putting off this trip, until today.

I entered the main building, and started my search. They don’t have a proper directory so I had to climb the 4 stories in search of the diaper section. I eventually found it, on the third floor. It was a modest section full of baby diaper brands, and as with all other departments, the guards were posted to the section. There was just one adult diaper brand, something I’ve never heard of and it didn’t even stuck in my mind.

Undaunted, I decided to go to the extension building, as they called it. A bit more searching and lo and behold, I found the DL shopper’s eye candy. Hidden at the back of the first floor was modest selection of adult diapers. What I found remarkable was that the diapers came in all sizes and variants. There were 3 variants of Lille SupremFit, in 3 sizes. There were Certainty diapers, Tena Value Diapers, and of course, Tena Slip Plus and Super.

Alas, the only diaper missing was the very diaper I had come in search for. The M size Tena Slip Super. They had the S and L sizes, but no M! Why???

These were some promotions that are ongoing:

Tena Value: 1 for $10.10, 2 for $17.75.

Certainty: 1 for $7.15

TSS Large: 1 for $19.50

I also finally understood another popular saying – that if Mustafa was out of stock, it’s hard to get it anywhere else. Having glanced earlier at some other shops, it looks to be the case for the Tena Slip Super M size.

I settled for a Tena Slip Plus, so expect a review!

– Selv


L Size Diapers For An M Sized Person

So, in a scene reminiscent of an episode last year, I saw, left in the same spot as before, a pack of diapers sitting beside a dustbin. Tena Value Institution diapers. Being the cash-strapped, diaper-missing person that I am (who also needed the toilet at that moment), I put my bag down, rounded the dustbin and picked up the diapers.

It was only when I had returned to my bag did I realise that it was an OPEN bag, of size L diapers. The contents didn’t seem contaminated with dirt or dust, and I decided to bring it home with me. After all, the cleaners would have thrown it away the next morning anyway, and it’s first come-first serve.

While the packaging wasn’t dirty or anything, I did clean the outside as well as the exposed tips. 8 extra dips, yay!

But as I opened up a diaper, it was apparent how BIG the thing was. I mean, who was I kidding? It’s meant for hip size 114-147cm (45-58in) and mine is below 80cm. And no matter how high I positioned the diaper, it wasn’t giving a snug fit… until I pulled the lower tapes higher than usual. My assets had more room, and importantly, the leg gathers still snugly fit around my bottom, ensuring a tight seal against the forthcoming eruption.

But beyond the physical part, as I lay in bed that night, something about this diaper rekindled the first time I ever wore adult diapers. I was a scrawny teenaged boy, and the S sized diapers were sold in packs of 30 and were too expensive. So I bought M sized ones. And I had this feeling of oversized comfort as I put those on, a feeling I experienced again when I wore L sized diapers for the first time years later.

I’ve always been used to tight-fitting diapers because M sizes are big for me, but S sizes are too small. So on the M diapers I’ve had to bring the tapes close to each other, until recent times when the gap started to widen and the diapers fit much more snugly.

And I kind of like this loose, snug feel that the Ls provide. Plus, it’s a plastic-backed diaper so that adds to the soothing comfort. The high-riding diaper means my hips don’t feel the tightness when the diaper is full of liquid.

I guess I now understand why ABDLs like to wear oversized diapers – it’s because of this phenomenon. The fit, the snugness, the slight oversized element… It’s like a toddler wearing his diaper without worry, rather than an older child squeezing into her diaper meant for a younger kid.

I saw a six or seven year old walk out of a tuition centre in Tampines Mall and into a toilet, her hands held by her teacher. She was visibly upset. But it was what was in the teacher’s hands that caught my eye – a Drypers diaper and some wipes. The smell was also quite strong.

I really, truly pity her, because she must have been terribly teased by her classmates afterward. Tweens are particularly nasty towards those who are different. It’s not so much the accident, those are common, but rather, it’s the diaper. If only the teacher had some tact in handling the case, it would have been better for the poor kid.

– Selv