Exploring ABDL Social Media

I’ve been spending a little too much time sleeping at home these past few days, since we entered ‘Circuit Breaker’ mode. That is what my government has been calling our partial lockdown here in Singapore, since they are trying to not scare the populace before the election.

Initially I was like ‘”yes! More time for ABDL writing!”, but I’ve been feeling so lethargic. Whenever I start doing something I suddenly get an urgent assignment and so I have to rush it out. And then there is my mum suddenly asking me to do some chore so I have to oblige.

But I digress. I’ve had the luxury of spending a fair bit of time on my ABDL social media these past few days. And I’m not exactly convinced with it.

My Instagram account kicked off well, when people began to follow me quickly. I had kind of expected that, but I soon noticed that 90% of the people following me were men. I will not lie that I’m a little disturbed by the estimate. A further 9% are that of trans women. But interestingly about 15% are what I’ll call ‘regional ABDLs’ – that is they are from Singapore, Malaysia and Indonesia.

What’s disturbed me the most is that people are sending me crotch shots and nudes. These are people who I’ve never interacted before and they think their assets are actually worth anything to get a reply from me? The nerve some people have. And people who straight up ask me questions like ‘are you diapered 24/7’, ‘or are you Gay?’ There’s nothing wrong with these questions but asking them without even a simple introduction is just a red flag for me.

I’m seriously considering privatising my instagram, cos these negative DMs are outnumbering the positive ones. Having said that, I know that there will always be challenges at the start, so I’ll keep monitoring. Thing is, I’m a guy. I shudder to think just how bad it must be for an ABDL girl, having to deal with all this nonsense.

As for my Twitter account, it is more civilised at the moment. I’ve really enjoyed conversations there. It seems there aren’t that many ABDLs on Twitter though, except for ABDL Influencers. Maybe I haven’t been looking hard enough.

It’s still going slow but Twitter has been offering me the kind of creative freedom that I like. I can write my thoughts which are ABDL-centric, I can even write ABDL micro fiction. Not to mention promoting this blog’s posts without seeming out of place, though at the moment it is not making a difference. So Twitter is a space which I will be dabbling a lot in during this period.

That’s not to say that Instagram might not work for me. It has been offering me a different kind of creative freedom in the form of visuals vs. Twitter’s intellectual space. So I can upload more pictures on Instagram and it will fit the vibe of the platform as well as the followers. I’ve always told myself that humans are a visual species first before intellectual so that’s why it’s much easier to get a following on instagram. But I’m just not the kind of guy to post that kind of content.

The only really disappointing issue I have with Twitter is that somehow, its algorithms think that I’m a Trans. Its ‘recommended’ feed just keeps suggesting trans ABDL accounts. ABDL yes, but I’m not on Twitter for LGBTQ stuff so it is a turn off. And Twitter as you all know, is pretty very lax about nudity so that is an extra turn off for me. I really need to find more ABDL accounts to jolt that lousy algorithm in the direction I prefer.

Anyway it’s just day 4 of the month-long circuit breaker, so I’ll still be playing this game for a while yet. Yesterday marked the 100th day of 2020, as well as 100 days since the WHO was informed about COVID-19. Remember the Amazon and Australian wildfires, anyone? With cases doubling in Singapore doubling every 9-11 days and with cases in Europe doubling in every 3-4 days, it’s going to be a while before things normalise.

Stay safe everyone.

-Selv

Minors and ABDLs

I’m sure that many of you would have heard about the bombshell that exploded around ABU this week, following reemergence of the fact that its current CEO used to run DB.

I was shellshocked, to say the least. To those who don’t know, DB was a site which has a section for minors to interact with each other. It was set up in 2004, so this was before the current standards of not interacting with TBDLs was adopted. I’ve never visited DB personally, but in my years of lurking on ABDL forums and sites I’ve come to realise that it was a much reviled site.

Anyway, this exchange happened on Twitter, where an ABDL commentary account tweeted about this. AB World Problems tweets about a variety of stuff, but this tweet caught many people’s eyes.

Yes, I am Klo. Yes, I ran DB from 2004 until around ~2012. No, we did not have an under 13 gallery. I was 14 in 2004 and we had a gallery section for those between ages 13 and 18. Once you were over 18, you were asked to leave this gallery section.

— Casey Strom (@CaseyStrom) April 3, 2020

Said CEO actually responded to identify himself and say that said section was for 13-18 year olds and that ‘once over 18, you were asked to leave this section’.

It is one thing that said CEO’s openness was unexpectedly direct. To many, it was an admission that he actually condoned interaction with underaged TBDLs, as he did not express regret.

Which lead to several ABDL personalities voicing out their opinion on the matter. Many were united in stating that involving minors in this community was a big no-no. It is in the interest of their personal safety that we should not involve minors until they are of age.

And this is something that I’ve come to accept too. Minors are still new to the world, especially the online world where they do not have parents or other forms of guidance from telling them what’s safe and what’s not. We may vehemently protest that ABDLism is not sexual for some of us, but we cannot ignore the fact that as an online community there is sexual content pervading much of our spaces. And as a precaution, there was a consensus that we are not going to interact with minors until they are legally adults.

The oft-cited argument for allowing TBDLs into our online space is that they turned to said space for acceptance, and that not including them would only fuel their insecurities. But we have to look at the bigger picture. There is no way way to ensure minors’ safety. We thought we could – many ABDL sites started off as support communities for TBDLs. But when more and more people started exploiting minors, it became clear that we cannot trust ourselves.

There was a fair bit of pushback to said ABDL personalities voicing their opinions on the community consensus of not allowing minors. A bit too much, I feel. There will always be that lone wolf out there, but it’s saddening that a significant portion of ABDLs not only disagree, but went on the attack. As a community that gets mistakenly linked with pedophilia, ABDLs should be very wary of being construed as such, and these people are not helping.

– Selv