Diapers And Television

Pollution and environmental protection are not new ideas, they have been around for decades. In fact, disposable diapers were identified as a major source of trash that took up considerable landfill space. Toilets and sanitation facilities on the other hand were still switching to environmentally sensitive processing methods as late as the 80’s.

I came across this clip of an old 80’s Canadian TV show called ‘You Can’t Do That On Television’, it is a sit-com of the day that tried to spin the pollution idea with the idea that ‘only babies wear diapers, hence people will laugh if an older kid wearing them’. But it is objectively funny in itself.

Televisions were built to inform, but have been used to entertain for decades. It is when companies create entertainment with a spin of truth, that certain stereotypes form, e.g that diapers are for babies, that you must potty train by 2 etc. And as we move towards being an intelligent society, we must digest our entertainment with a pinch of salt.

You may watch it here.

 

– Selv

Meaningless

via Daily Prompt: Meaningless

Sometimes, the uncertainty is excruciating – what chances is there of meeting an ABDL out there?  Just getting someone who’s first written to you to respond, is a waiting game in itself.

I don’t know, this whole waiting game is not fun anymore. The only way to interact with more people seems to be that you’d have to show your body and face, do something cringeworthy like show the contents of your diaper and stuff. Even then, it won’t go far cos I’m a male in a male-dominated community.

How then can I interact with the ABDL community? The main forums are dying, guarded by anchors who are very jumpy about stuff in general. Posting nudes and the like is out. Blogging is not working out. You can’t talk ABDL stuff to vanilla friends. I don’t have an SO.

This is hopeless.

– Selv

Diaper Stories

I’ve been watching the ABDL story scene for a while now. And there seems to be a decline in this area. Either that or everyone’s posting somewhere else.

ADISC suffered a dearth in its stories forums when they did their overhaul. The Stories forum was made private such that only logged-in members could view them, and many of the good quality older stories got removed. Was it necessary to do a blanket deletion of all the stories just to weed out the stories containing underaged characters?

The mods themselves have mentioned that underaged people were barred from the site only on a just-in-case basis. So they may have their reasons for it, but overall, it caused a loss in many good stories. The good thing is, many people reposted their stories. The bad thing is, after the initial hype died down, there were fewer contributions. Today, there are but a few regulars frequenting that forum, way quieter than during its heyday. There are good stories and good writers, but there are poorly written stories as well.

Then there is the abdl story forum (ASF). As far as I can tell the mods didn’t do any major tweaking, but the effect the same is with ADISC – few regulars, few stories, some are rotten potatoes. From what I see, it’s been a slow decline over there at ASF. They used to have story competitions, but they have been discontinued in the previous few years due to lack of participation.

Having said that, they are having another go at it. They’re hosting a Halloween story writing contest, with separate categories for scary and non-scary stories so if you want to warm yourself up for NaNoWriMo, do give it a shot!

There’s the Daily Diapers forum but I haven’t been scanning through that. And then there’s ABDL Stories Homestead, where many stories are very very similar to each other. Let’s not forget Deviantart, which mixes in artwork with storytelling. Deviantart as far as I can tell from an outsider, is doing well with regards to the ABDL scene. But that’s because people want to see pictures.

Which leads me to wonder, why?

The thought that comes to mind is the proliferation of social media. For us ABDL’s, that would mainly be Tumblr, Instagram and Snapchat. With varied content available on these platforms, people are able to interact directly with each other, but at a cost – girls are getting harassed. Guys hiding behind a keyboard are spewing filth at these people(girls and guys), just because they can be anonymous. Sure, it is just a small group. But these so-called ‘content creators’ will tone down as a result, and then everyone suffers.

But back to the topic of ABDL stories.

With these social media platforms offering netizens more of what they want to see, traditional forums and story forums are seeing a decline. Which is what I think is the main cause of the decline in stories – the lack of forum users leads to a lack in stories. A lack in stories leads to the lack in members critiquing. A lack of discussion then leads to authors changing their platforms. I know of at least one writer who has experienced this, and I’m that person.

Beyond that, we must acknowledge that people are also seeking to publish their writings online, either in e-book format or in other pay-to-view arrangements. With e-publishers like Smashwords, Amazon, Lulu and others, it is very easy to go online. Reaching readers can be a problem but otherwise the monetary incentive is a big draw for authors who have that calibre.

While I’m not expecting a total, irreversible decline of the story forums, that is what it is looking like now. The thing is, we can’t force people to write. Like any creative work, it takes time and mood to concoct a good story. It would be easy for me to say ‘hey, just organise a competition with attractive prizes and people will participate’, but as noted, participation rates are low.

Ultimately, the motivation to write comes from the demand that readers supply. Some write for fun, but arguably the best things come from author and auteurs who receive renumeration. #rowling #spielberg

NaNoWriMo is coming in 2 months. If not for my uni exams, I would be taking part in it.

– Selv

Pampered with Pampers

So, the Fairprice Supermarket nearby my house is having a sort of promotion for Pampers. There’s this huge events area right beside the entrance that is stocked full with pampers from newborn till size 6 I think. I think Mamy Poko is also having a smaller-scaled promo too. Of course I didn’t stop to stare, but it did catch my attention. As well as the attention of all the kids and toddlers who were entering the store.

But it got me thinking. It’s my own personal observation and it may not be wholly accurate, but I see that today, most babies older than 1 are using pull-up style diaper rather than tape-on ones. The bulge is not that obvious and usually the elastic waistband is peeking out over their top of the pants/skirt/undearwearthingy. Even my youngest cousin wears pull-ups.

Is there a trend on the mummy forums that makes it hip for parents to prefer pull-ups? Sure, it mimics regular underwear and is easy to make off for both kid and parent. But it seems that they are prone to diaper-blowouts, as is the case with my cousin . And parents – surely they must be aware of this limitation – are fine with it? I believe I’m missing something here.

The other thing is that with a fall in demand for tape-on baby disposables will lead to a fall in supply of these diapers. Hopefully our local ABDLs won’t be inconvenienced, though admittedly this seems like a far-fetched idea at the moment. Remember how Pampers size 7 disappeared with the arrival of Goodnites? It won’t happen suddenly, but it will happen quietly.

As for me, I’m sticking to my Tenas. But I’ll be keeping a close watch on baby diapers too. blogpost121

– Selv

Diaper Travels – Planning The Next Round

I love my Diapered Escapedes (Yes, that’s how I like to spell them). I run them on small budgets of not more than $200, all-in. They give me a chance to wear diapers 24/7 and, because they are vacations, I get to relax (most of the time).

Planning for my sixth Diapered Escapede, with about 2 weeks to go. My last one in March was ambitious, having explored Penang and KL while wearing diapers. So I’ll probably stay closer to home this round, either JB or Batam/Bintan. But accessibility is an issue, and I want that peace of mind for the 2 or 3 days should I need to rush back.

Then again I could get a staycation in Singapore itself, although it would be more expensive. The last time I had a DE staycation was back in 2014 so maybe this is something I’m thinking about. I’ll probably be relaxing, just maybe meet others, work on some writing and perhaps this blog too.

Then, as always, there is the issue of what diaper do I wear.

DE1: Staycay – Banitore (First time)

DE2: Staycay –  TSS (First time)

DE3: KL Disastercation- TSS (Missed my return flight, hence the name)

DE4: Melaka Drivescapede – TSS

DE5: Penang-to-KL – TSS (the most expensive and ambitious one so far)

Perhaps this time I could try a plastic-backed diaper. The Fairprice Extra Care diaper beckons because the Safe Control was so good! Albeit with lousy frontal patches. There’s also the Tena Slip Maxi, which I’ve been eyeing for forever. But this one is quite hard to get nowadays (even the TSS is getting relegated to pharmacies).

So JB or Singapore again? And FEC or TSM diaper?

– Selv

Thoughts on Romance

Wouldn’t it be nice if you had a girlfriend-wife who you could care for?

You pick her up from work, return home, cook dinner with her/eat out together, take a shower together then before bed you put her in her night-time diaper and give her a warm hug and kiss her goodnight before tucking her in as you climb under the covers? 

Except that, statistically, it’s not going to happen. 

I am not going to lie and say that I don’t have such wishful thinking. But after years of trawling through ABDL forums, social media and even fetish sites, I would say that the probability for a white male to meet such a partner is about 20% while the probability for an Asian living in Asia is less than 10%. Though that number might be larger in metropolitan areas.

In this day and age, women want respect. They want to be accorded the mutual respect that comes with education. These are good practices. But they would inhibit women from wanting to be cared for- they can take care of themselves! (That doesn’t mean that they don’t crave attention, which I feel that we as gentlemen should give them 🙂

Throw in the complexities of a conservative society, and the depressingly generalized Google search results for ‘ABDL’, and you have a recipe to turn a girl away from you. 

As I keep searching for that life partner, I gently have to remind myself that my future soulmate probably won’t want to do her morning number ones or twos in ‘a thing that only babies wear’. Moreover, she will thoroughly be against me doing my morning number ones and twos in a noisy, crinkly garment. 

Her simplest reasoning would be ‘it’s not hygienic’, her most guilt-tripping one would invoke religion, and her most likely reasoning would be ‘that ABDLs are sickos (we are not)’. 

I understand that people have successfully done it before. There are a number of podcasts and articles that give very good advice on how to go about doing this. 

You shouldn’t date a girl who doesn’t accept you for who you are, I hear you say. If only… if only it were that simple. 

Will I be lucky? This is something that I’ve been longing for at least since I was 6. The believe is that, as long as you really want it, as long as you take the steps towards it (hence this blog), and as long as you are patient, then there will be results.





– Selv

The Tykables Torment

It’s been about 2 weeks since this topic surfaced but I thought I’d touch on it since it is a good case study.

Tykables is very much a part of our ABDL retail scene, and recently they had opened a brick-and-mortar space in Mount Pleasant, Illinois. Its meant to function mainly as storage and as a pick-up point for purchases.

But residents, not fully informed about ABDLs, became concerned once they found out that a business was selling things that were meant for ‘adult babies’. Their concerns were fuelled by the fact that the outlet was located close by to schools, a park, a pool and other public spaces where children frequent.

John Williams, the store owner, had to attend meetings with local officials and residents to explain his situation, and they each have made compromises. While the Tykables team now has to contend with added expenses and potential loss of visibility, they (and buying customers) have been very lucky that they are able to continue to operate.

There are two things that come to mind. The first is that the residents were unaware of what ABDLs do or stand for, jumped to conclusions and became very unsettled by what they perceived as a potential threat to the community. They did what they would do as with any other potential threat to their community.

We all know that for the most part, ABDLs are not pedophiles or sexual maniacs that actively haunt women and children. But we cannot assume that everyone knows this.  The uninformed general public will jump to conclusions as that is human nature.

But the fact is that we cannot go around educating everyone on the lifestyles of ABDL and Littles. We need to accept that they will continue to mistrust us even though we stress that we are just a bunch of people who do our stuff in the privacy of our houses/rooms. Just think about your parents’ first reactions when they found out. Now extend that to an entire community!

The other thing  that comes into mind is that the owner(s) of Tykables might have been a little too trusting of the residents. They might have been focused on the business tenet of location connectivity, and might have failed to take note of their store’s proximity to areas where children are present. As I’ve never been to the area I don’t know how close the store actually is to the said areas, but what can be said is that given the public’s tendency to mistrust us ABDLs, we should put sufficient distance between ourselves and children.

Here is a link to an article which explains the story.

I had read somewhere else, that there seems to be a gun store close by as well, and that residents should be more worried that gunmen would target their children, rather than be worried that some freak will break into their children’s school to diaper them. Very thoughtful words, I might add.

Stay cautious, people.

– Selv

Additions To My Blog

Hi guys and girls,

I’ve been adding a few things to the site, thought I’d put them in a post in case you’ve missed some of them.

I’ve added 2 Diaper Reviews, Dr. P Basic and Certainty. The Certainty review doesn’t have pictures because I seem to have misplaced them, so I’ve altered my usual template.

I’ve also added a new section, which I’m calling Semi-articles. It is a collection of some of my blog posts which I feel that ABDLs will be interested in, for easy reading. A gentle reminder that while I’ve done my due research, the opinions contained within these posts are mine and do not necessarily reflect other people’s views.

I’ve added a few blogs to my list in the Useful Links. Do take a look at their blogs!

I’ve updated my Tumblr Short Stories. It is growing very slowly.

It’s a small site, with a small readership. But I feel that it is worth the effort. Thank you for reading my thoughts.

– Selv

Wanderlust

Wanderlust – A strong innate desire to rove or travel about.

I think I have this disease, because Ive been making my list of the places that I want to see and experience. All this is fine, a lot of young people do have this desire too. But it gets complicating when one is an ABDL. The ABDL mind also tries to figure out if certain trips would permit them to wear diapers. I’ve been searching the web and I’ve found some pretty good advice on how to go about wearing diapers on flights, changing on-the-go etc. But most of that advice is geared to the American diaper user. So, I’ve decided to write this post to share some of my experiences with the ASEAN netizens, and visitors.

Attire and Packing

I’ve travelled to a number of Southeast Asian nations. The thing is that with the exception of Singapore and Bangkok, the communities here are still very much conservative. So, no tight fitting skirts, no short shorts (including FBTs), no low-hanging pants. That said, most of us DON’T want to reveal our diapers anyway. But it is important too that we don’t accidentally reveal it.

If you choose slightly baggy jeans, cargo pants, bermudas, loose dresses or skirts, you should be fine. It helps if you wear a shirt that covers your butt region. Western women attract a lot of attention here, so wearing a dress/skirt on tours is not a good idea. Every other month there is a case of some man being charged for taking up-skirt photos of girls while on escalators, so do be careful.

Choosing a hotel

If you would like to wear your diapers in a hotel, it would be very handy to choose a room which has an en-suite bathroom. This gives you absolute privacy to change your diapers without alerting your neighbours. Agoda and hotels.com allow you to view pictures of the room, so do use the feature. And remember to bring some plastic-bags, to throw your diapers away, on the way out. Personally, I don’t like to leave my diapers in the room for the staff to pick up after. It is, after all, human emissions.

Choosing a diaper

Most of us would have a certain preferred diaper that you’d like to wear. In the privacy of your hotel room it does not make a difference. But when it is time to go out, privacy is key. I use cloth-backed diapers when I’m out and about. The main reason is that is it virtually noiseless. Choosing a thin diaper is also important, as it prevents waddling when you’re wet, and there is less chance of an obvious outline appearing on your pants. It is also very important that you do not wear a plastic diaper when taking a flight. More on this in a bit.

Bringing diapers along takes up valuable luggage space. In fact, it is possible to buy adult diapers in most big cities in the region. Just look for a local supermarket or a pharmacy. However, it must be noted that Tena has a market dominance in this part of the world, with Tena Slip Super (cloth-backed) and Tena Value (plastic-backed) the commonest adult diapers here. Other local brands include Lifree(pull-ups), Dr.P (plastic-backed, they do a XS youth diaper), and Control Plus (plastic-backed, overnight version is very absorbent), and several store-brands. The only other European brand available is Abena.

Clearing Land Checkpoints

This is pertains the clearing of land immigration in and out of Malaysia by bus. I took a coach from Singapore to Kuala Lumpur, passing through the second link. Clearing the Singapore side at the Tuas Checkpoint is a time-consuming for non Singapore citizens as the officers need to do more system checks. There are no baggage and luggage scans, you don’t even need to bring down your bags from the coach! But it can take up to 1.5 hours to clear immigration during peak hours.

Now, the hardest part is over. The bus will now travel over to the Malaysian Kompleks Sultan Abu Bakar checkpoint. This time, you would have to bring down all your luggage. After getting your passport stamped, you need to get your bag checked. Unlike airport security, you can bring in liquids of any amount. But please don’t test the limits! There is no body check at all, unless the country is on high alert, which is very rare. Once complete, you head out back to the bus bay. You can stop for a short bathroom break here, but the toilets are very crowded, dirty and smelly due to the high passenger volumes. You can buy some snacks at the small convenience shop there before boarding your bus. Overall, the whole process takes about 20 minutes, barring seasonal peak periods and fridays evenings.

The process is in reverse to go from Malaysia to Singapore. The similarity is the time spent at each checkpoint is the same, and the only difference is that all alcohol brought into Singapore is taxable, so it must be declared to the authorities. You stand to hold up the entire coach if they see an undeclared bottle in your luggage during the baggage check so this is not to be taken lightly. Singaporeans must also declare all cigarettes that they buy, and pay duty on them. Generally, it is slightly faster to clear immigration by the Second Link, rather than the Causeway.

Wearing diapers through this entire process is fine, as they don’t do body checks. But as coach take about 6-7 hours to go from Singapore city to Kuala Lumpur, make sure you wear a very absorbent diaper.

Clearing Airport Security

Air travel is a boon for travellers and business people, but airport security is a necessary evil that we need to accept. Unlike in the US, we don’t have those controversial full-body imaging scanners. In terms of privacy, that means that governments will not have pictures of our diapered bottoms. But everything else is still relevant to us, including hand-carry items. No liquids exceeding 100ml. No more than 10 such items, and all must be placed in a pouch or ziplock bag. EMPTY water bottles are allowed. No sharp objects, such as diaper pins.

Now, all carry-on bags go through the imaging scanner to detect all the above. Us humans will have to walk through a metal detector. Herein, three very important rules come in.

  1. Remove all metal objects, including your ring, chain, belt buckle etc.
  2. Do not wear a plastic-backed diaper.
  3. Do not wear a wet diaper through airport security.

Any form of metal will set off the metal detector, and you will be forced to go through a pat-down. Avoid this state as far as possible, and your dignity may be maintained. If they discover that you are wearing a diaper, they may ask you to remove it. The problem becomes very dire if the diaper is wet. Especially plastic-backed ones as they may be classified as plastic incendiary devices, and bringing an ‘unauthorised liquid’ on board the flight. Thus, try to hold it in, no matter what. The only tip I can suggest to my incon friends is to change into a fresh diaper just before going through security. I guess that I’m being paranoid here, and thankfully, I have never been stopped by airport security for a pat-down.

Long Distance Bus Travel

Unlike in Europe, the train systems in Southeast Asia are pretty much undeveloped. Many cities have metro systems, but intercity travel is mostly restricted to flight and bus, unless you have the time for the train. And yes, bus travel can be long and daunting. As such, there can be many toilet breaks. In recent years, local authorities have been stepping up sanitation standards but toilets outside the city can be way below expectation. Most toilets are the squatting type, so it is the ladies that suffer the most. Wearing diapers helps you avoid that situation. And wearing diapers gives you the added benefit of extra padding, providing for a tad comfier ride.

Long Distance Train Travel

As mentioned above, intercity train travel is really really slow, but cheap. They are air-conditioned, and come with velvet seats. Except for the newest suburban lines in Kuala Lumpur, the trains in Southeast Asia have the same toilet problem. Except this time, the toilet cubicle is so squeezy that you really wouldn’t want to get it. And in a rickety old train, it can be very hard for people to ‘aim’. You do not need to go through security in any form to get onto a train.

It is possible to travel between countries on the system (Malaysia’s KTMB runs trains from Kuala Lumpur to Bangkok and Singapore(take connecting shuttle train at JB Sentral)), but unless you are a train buff, you are better off catching a budget flight for the same price. Border security checks are the same as for the land checkpoints.

Sea Travel

(This I am working on, so please stay tuned. It mainly concerns taking ferries to Indonesia, and within Indonesia, for it is a vast archipelago.)

I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this post, as much as I’ve enjoyed putting it together. This is not an exclusive, nor authoritative guide, so please do your homework before travelling to anywhere. Enjoy your trips and happy wanderlusting!

– Selv

When It Comes To Siblings Who Are Diapered, Part 2

Here’s Part 1. I’ve been a little busy, and it took time to research these posts.

When It Comes To Siblings Who Are Diapered, Part 1

We have looked at the emotions that people may experience as kids when they know that their sibling has to wear diapers for bedwetting. Most of the kids who remain diapered at an older age do so solely because of bedwetting. I’ve also talked about pubescent girls who may have to wear pull-ups for a bit while their bodies adjust. But there are two categories that rarely get mentioned.

I’ll touch on the second one briefly. There are sick parents out there who diaper their kids as a form of punishment. Some parents may be pushed to the point of putting the child back into diapers to protect the bed, but that is a mild form of it. But there are people who force their kids to wear nothing but a diaper and do stuff for a petty mistake. Or the daycare teacher that forced the child into diapers because she had several ‘accidents’. Those are basically a sick form of child abuse.

Imagine the horror that a sibling would go through upon seeing such scenes. They would begin to fret, fearing that they could be subject to it next. And usually, they are. There would usually be underlying family problems too, so usually such abuse would only end when child services are alerted.

The third category involves a child who use their diapers only to poop. There are a multitude of reasons as to why a child may continue to use his diaper just to go #2. Many involve incidents of trauma, such as constipation, which leads to an association that pooping on the toilet is painful etc. I’ll leave the reasons why this occurs to another post.

The diaper-pooping kid is becoming more prevalent. Just like how bedwetting is hushed up and kept a secret, so is this. Only this time, the secret is much more closely kept. A person may easily explain why diapers are needed for bedwetting, with all the involuntary peeing and stuff. But ‘willingly’ giving a child a diaper, just for her to put it on for a few minutes to do a ubiquitous act? That sounds preposterous!

The truth is, most of the kids who go through this issues would be single children. There simply isn’t any peer-pressure for them to change, and peer-pressure (a.k.a social impetus brought on by kids of the same age) has been singled out as a force that changes attitudes and behaviours in kids. That is why most kids get fully toilet-trained quickly upon starting school.

But we’re on a mission to find out, what if the trend continued past later years? For a start, parents would likely enforce the same set of rules on the sibling that would go with bed wetters i.e no teasing, no telling, no touching the diapers. Perhaps, because of the nature of taking a poop, there would be additional rules like ‘no disturbing when your sister is pooping’.

This poses a few thoughts. Due to the extra rules, the siblings may get a perception that they are being treated differently. Usually, they feel (or are made to feel) that they are being treated better by their parents. They may have better leeway when asking for things.

Second, there is very little sympathy. Betwetters have no control. But the diaper-poopers have all the control, yet they choose to be different. At least, that’s what a young child would perceive. As such, since it is the child’s choice, the sibling would be under the impression that the child is rebelling, and is thus getting their way.

Third, the whole family may experience inconveniences because the child needs a diaper. Diapers cost money. (Except perhaps in Singapore, flushing may cost the same amount.)The urge to poop comes at different times for everyone. So if a family is out, the mother may have to stop, just to diaper and clean up a child. That could cause a sibling to become more impatient with the child, piling on more grudges against them.

Then there is also the great chance that the sibling may develop a superiority complex over the child. That he is able to control himself, while ‘older sister cannot’. Other issues may crop up and sibling rivalry may start to flame up in earnest.

One cannot ignore the fact that wearing diapers would subject the wearer to stereotypes. And children may not be mature enough to distinguish them. That is why kids tease each other. Kids who poop their diaper will always be teased and misunderstood. Which in itself, is the main reason why most non-incontinent kids don’t poop in their diapers for long – their siblings make fun of them.

As you can see, unlike in the case of bedwetting, the bond between a diaper-pooping child and their sibling(s) is very shaky. It even can get negative. This is why many people don’t talk about it – it brings back bad memories of their childhood. I had very little leads to go on. Most came from ABDL literature, from which I had to pick out the ideas and themes to arrive at this post.

– Selv