Wanderlust – A strong innate desire to rove or travel about.
I think I have this disease, because Ive been making my list of the places that I want to see and experience. All this is fine, a lot of young people do have this desire too. But it gets complicating when one is an ABDL. The ABDL mind also tries to figure out if certain trips would permit them to wear diapers. I’ve been searching the web and I’ve found some pretty good advice on how to go about wearing diapers on flights, changing on-the-go etc. But most of that advice is geared to the American diaper user. So, I’ve decided to write this post to share some of my experiences with the ASEAN netizens, and visitors.
Attire and Packing
I’ve travelled to a number of Southeast Asian nations. The thing is that with the exception of Singapore and Bangkok, the communities here are still very much conservative. So, no tight fitting skirts, no short shorts (including FBTs), no low-hanging pants. That said, most of us DON’T want to reveal our diapers anyway. But it is important too that we don’t accidentally reveal it.
If you choose slightly baggy jeans, cargo pants, bermudas, loose dresses or skirts, you should be fine. It helps if you wear a shirt that covers your butt region. Western women attract a lot of attention here, so wearing a dress/skirt on tours is not a good idea. Every other month there is a case of some man being charged for taking up-skirt photos of girls while on escalators, so do be careful.
Choosing a hotel
If you would like to wear your diapers in a hotel, it would be very handy to choose a room which has an en-suite bathroom. This gives you absolute privacy to change your diapers without alerting your neighbours. Agoda and hotels.com allow you to view pictures of the room, so do use the feature. And remember to bring some plastic-bags, to throw your diapers away, on the way out. Personally, I don’t like to leave my diapers in the room for the staff to pick up after. It is, after all, human emissions.
Choosing a diaper
Most of us would have a certain preferred diaper that you’d like to wear. In the privacy of your hotel room it does not make a difference. But when it is time to go out, privacy is key. I use cloth-backed diapers when I’m out and about. The main reason is that is it virtually noiseless. Choosing a thin diaper is also important, as it prevents waddling when you’re wet, and there is less chance of an obvious outline appearing on your pants. It is also very important that you do not wear a plastic diaper when taking a flight. More on this in a bit.
Bringing diapers along takes up valuable luggage space. In fact, it is possible to buy adult diapers in most big cities in the region. Just look for a local supermarket or a pharmacy. However, it must be noted that Tena has a market dominance in this part of the world, with Tena Slip Super (cloth-backed) and Tena Value (plastic-backed) the commonest adult diapers here. Other local brands include Lifree(pull-ups), Dr.P (plastic-backed, they do a XS youth diaper), and Control Plus (plastic-backed, overnight version is very absorbent), and several store-brands. The only other European brand available is Abena.
Clearing Land Checkpoints
This is pertains the clearing of land immigration in and out of Malaysia by bus. I took a coach from Singapore to Kuala Lumpur, passing through the second link. Clearing the Singapore side at the Tuas Checkpoint is a time-consuming for non Singapore citizens as the officers need to do more system checks. There are no baggage and luggage scans, you don’t even need to bring down your bags from the coach! But it can take up to 1.5 hours to clear immigration during peak hours.
Now, the hardest part is over. The bus will now travel over to the Malaysian Kompleks Sultan Abu Bakar checkpoint. This time, you would have to bring down all your luggage. After getting your passport stamped, you need to get your bag checked. Unlike airport security, you can bring in liquids of any amount. But please don’t test the limits! There is no body check at all, unless the country is on high alert, which is very rare. Once complete, you head out back to the bus bay. You can stop for a short bathroom break here, but the toilets are very crowded, dirty and smelly due to the high passenger volumes. You can buy some snacks at the small convenience shop there before boarding your bus. Overall, the whole process takes about 20 minutes, barring seasonal peak periods and fridays evenings.
The process is in reverse to go from Malaysia to Singapore. The similarity is the time spent at each checkpoint is the same, and the only difference is that all alcohol brought into Singapore is taxable, so it must be declared to the authorities. You stand to hold up the entire coach if they see an undeclared bottle in your luggage during the baggage check so this is not to be taken lightly. Singaporeans must also declare all cigarettes that they buy, and pay duty on them. Generally, it is slightly faster to clear immigration by the Second Link, rather than the Causeway.
Wearing diapers through this entire process is fine, as they don’t do body checks. But as coach take about 6-7 hours to go from Singapore city to Kuala Lumpur, make sure you wear a very absorbent diaper.
Clearing Airport Security
Air travel is a boon for travellers and business people, but airport security is a necessary evil that we need to accept. Unlike in the US, we don’t have those controversial full-body imaging scanners. In terms of privacy, that means that governments will not have pictures of our diapered bottoms. But everything else is still relevant to us, including hand-carry items. No liquids exceeding 100ml. No more than 10 such items, and all must be placed in a pouch or ziplock bag. EMPTY water bottles are allowed. No sharp objects, such as diaper pins.
Now, all carry-on bags go through the imaging scanner to detect all the above. Us humans will have to walk through a metal detector. Herein, three very important rules come in.
- Remove all metal objects, including your ring, chain, belt buckle etc.
- Do not wear a plastic-backed diaper.
- Do not wear a wet diaper through airport security.
Any form of metal will set off the metal detector, and you will be forced to go through a pat-down. Avoid this state as far as possible, and your dignity may be maintained. If they discover that you are wearing a diaper, they may ask you to remove it. The problem becomes very dire if the diaper is wet. Especially plastic-backed ones as they may be classified as plastic incendiary devices, and bringing an ‘unauthorised liquid’ on board the flight. Thus, try to hold it in, no matter what. The only tip I can suggest to my incon friends is to change into a fresh diaper just before going through security. I guess that I’m being paranoid here, and thankfully, I have never been stopped by airport security for a pat-down.
Long Distance Bus Travel
Unlike in Europe, the train systems in Southeast Asia are pretty much undeveloped. Many cities have metro systems, but intercity travel is mostly restricted to flight and bus, unless you have the time for the train. And yes, bus travel can be long and daunting. As such, there can be many toilet breaks. In recent years, local authorities have been stepping up sanitation standards but toilets outside the city can be way below expectation. Most toilets are the squatting type, so it is the ladies that suffer the most. Wearing diapers helps you avoid that situation. And wearing diapers gives you the added benefit of extra padding, providing for a tad comfier ride.
Long Distance Train Travel
As mentioned above, intercity train travel is really really slow, but cheap. They are air-conditioned, and come with velvet seats. Except for the newest suburban lines in Kuala Lumpur, the trains in Southeast Asia have the same toilet problem. Except this time, the toilet cubicle is so squeezy that you really wouldn’t want to get it. And in a rickety old train, it can be very hard for people to ‘aim’. You do not need to go through security in any form to get onto a train.
It is possible to travel between countries on the system (Malaysia’s KTMB runs trains from Kuala Lumpur to Bangkok and Singapore(take connecting shuttle train at JB Sentral)), but unless you are a train buff, you are better off catching a budget flight for the same price. Border security checks are the same as for the land checkpoints.
(This I am working on, so please stay tuned. It mainly concerns taking ferries to Indonesia, and within Indonesia, for it is a vast archipelago.)
I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this post, as much as I’ve enjoyed putting it together. This is not an exclusive, nor authoritative guide, so please do your homework before travelling to anywhere. Enjoy your trips and happy wanderlusting!