ABDL Diapers

I often wonder why I can’t buy ABDL diapers at an affordable price.

It’s every Asian ABDL’s dilemma – do you spend a ton of money importing these ABDL diapers, or make do with much cheaper premium medical diapers.

Due to our need for privacy, we are very secretive of the way we buy diapers. Do we walk in to a retail store to buy ABDL diapers, or should we stick to ordering online? This need for privacy alone makes it very difficult for ABDL companies or ‘private traders’ to get consumption data on people buying medical diapers for ABDL reasons.

Institutions who order medical diapers are able to negotiate bulk orders and they are able to import diapers, as economies of scale make it possible for retailers like Tena to set up shop here. They know exactly how many units they need, and can demand a discount. And sellers will be willing to sell, because of the huge volumes involved.

Even other makers like Dr.P and Lille are still able to make significant sales because of the diverse market that is homecare. There’s always demand for Premium or Budget options when you have markets as big as the homecare and hospice sectors.

ABDLism is beginning to come of age in the western world. That’s why there are so many ABDL diaper brands in the US and Europe. It is only with the advent of the internet that ABDLs have awakened all over Asia. But again, the lack of data due to the need for privacy makes it difficult for Western retailers to decide where to set up shop, and how.

I believe that there is a critical number of ABDLs in cities like Singapore to make an ABDL business viable. But there are several reasons why this hasn’t happened yet. In my conversations with fellow Singapore ABDLs, the absolute sticking point is price.

“Why should I pay S$12 to import a single ABDL diaper when I can get a pack of 10 premium medical diapers at that price?” – BabySarah

That’s a valid concern that most of us have. In comparison, a pack of Bambino Classico diapers costs US$10 for 8 diapers before shipping – about US$1.25 per diaper.

So the question on our minds is, if we had direct sellers, could the price of ABDL diapers come down drastically? Of course, one needs to factor in things like the exchange rate, profit margin, postage, overheads etc. but we may see prices of about $3-4 per diaper.

Demand drives supply. Just setting up shop with cheaper ABDL diapers isn’t going to encourage many people to ditch cheap (or even premium) medical diapers. What can sellers do to drive demand, in order to maintain the basics of business? In this region, ABDL influencers aren’t a viable option admittedly (though it is a cool idea).

There will be other users of ABDL diapers. The BDSM community has been supportive of ABDL diapers. And with their premium absorbency it is (barely) possible that these diapers could be used for homecare too, driving the demand for them.

I can understand why people don’t want to set up an ABDL retail business – it is just too intrusive. Singapore does have a ‘Sex In The City’ – a retail chain known for selling sex paraphernalia – but the owners are decidedly not Asian. I know, that’s a bad argument, cos the kink side has burgeoned in the last decade so what’s to say that ABDLism won’t?

Point is, we are too defensive of our privacy, and we don’t have incentive to take that leap of faith. Someone has to sacrifice their privacy to kickstart this. But the practical Asian mind would go – ‘good to have, but not worth the hassle’.

– Selv


ABDLs vs. Media Perceptions

I think we as a community have been very reluctant to open up to others.  Everyone knows that the media likes to sensationalise topics published so that they can sell to readers. And there is a general consensus that the more interviews we do, the more we get hurt by this sensationalism.

It’s human nature to hurt others when we don’t understand them. It can be as simple as shooing away a stray cat, to as complex as western powers waging wars in the middle east. Life would be so much better if we stopped for a few moments to understand each other better. Throw in ego, arrogance and indignation and and you see why people engage in hate speech, flaming and shaming – they don’t understand us and want to make us feel inferior.

But we as a community have been particularly misunderstood, because diapers have always been associated with babies. And that in turn leads to the biggest misconception that people have about us – that we are attracted to children. That is far from the truth, but like I said, they don’t understand us, and most don’t try to.

Hence, these two factors have coalesced to make our lives more miserable. The media, with its agenda to make money via attracting viewers/readers who have limited attention spans, has made our community relatively heard of, but at the same time perpetuated misunderstandings about us.

There is this one article by Metro UK which surprisingly talks about this, but read with caution, it’s NSFW. Not impressed with the actual journalism though, just that the angle had potential but the article did not develop it.

Happy Chinese New Year for those celebrating, and for the rest have a good break!

– Selv

Why Am I Creating

Hi guys, I must apologize, It’s exam season again and I’m very tied for time.

Some of you have asked me why I decided to start a Patreon page. To be very frank I knew that I would have to struggle a lot to compete with other writers out there. The writing world is tiny compared to other forms, and the ABDL corner of it is but a sliver of that pool. 

But others have seen success, such as Allerted and Elibean. I cannot say that my track is different from them – not yet anyway – but I will admit that they have inspired me to try this out.

I’ve been passionate about ABDL-centric media. I’ve been a fan of Cushypen and I’ve read many many ABDL stories. I did try my hand in writing a couple of stories and I fell in love with it.

But I wanted more. I wanted to see an ABDL production – a cartoon perhaps. I knew it would be a far off dream because not many of us have the artistic talent AND animation skills AND storytelling skills. I certainly don’t have all three. Yet I want a product of such a dream. As they say, if you want it, you’ve got to get it.

My Patreon is a platform for me to build my animation skills and to sharpen my storytelling skills. The obvious truth is to make quality content you need training and software. And my idea was that if I could give some extras to my patrons in exchange for their funding, I could better myself.

What are these extras? A patron-only story every fortnight is something I hope my Patrons will enjoy. The first proper short-story is out this Thursday and it’s something that I’m sure will resonate with ABDLs from conservative families. 

The other things currently scheduled include access to character maps and plot outlines, as well as access to selected drafts. Then I plan to do polls from time to time to get your feedback on what you guys want. The real fun and games will start this June when I start asking for your opinions on ABDL cartoons, which I have started work on. 

Currently you don’t see any because it’s exam period, but I’m planning a deluge of stuff this coming end-May. 

My end of the month diaper review is here, this month I am reviewing the Guardian Comfort and Care Slip Diaper. You can read it here.

Finally, it is with regret that I must announce a blog posting hiatus. You will still see Sunday Tumblr Short Stories, as well as this coming thursday’s Patreon short-story. I may take a few days to get back to your emails and DMs.

I thank you guys once again for your support.

– Selv

Find Me On Patreon

Have been thinking about this for months now and I decided to take the plunge.

I am now on Patreon!

I have been putting out several ABDL stories for some time now, and while I will continue to post them publicly on Tumblr and ABDL forums, Patreon will give me a revenue avenue so that I can continue to write.

My Patrons will definitely be able to access content which will be exclusive. From idea polls to behind-the-scene character maps, Patrons will get some insights into my stories. I have 4 pledge tiers, the basic level of which unlocks 1 short story every fortnight.

And to start off, I’m posting a 3-chapter micro novella which I had written some years back. Thereafter I will commence my fortnightly postings.

I really hope that you guys will support me on this journey, I will explain my objectives this Saturday so do keep a lookout for it.


– Selv

My Interview with Rice Media

I was thinking of what diaper reviews I should do next. I need to review and write them before the semester ends, before I return home for the summer holidays. I was settling on Fairprice Extra Care as well as Guardian Tape-on diapers, maybe another. Thing is, once I’ve done these, I’d have covered all the common tape-on brands. I could move on to the more ‘speciality’ type ones like Abena or Lille SupremFit, which do retail at homecare shops.

Anyway, some of you might have seen my interview with Rice Media. I was a little apprehensive when they approached me given the small controversy that was ongoing at the time as well as their journalistic angle. It was supposed to be an article about ABDLs in Singapore but I’m guessing due to the lack of responses, the writer decided to focus on me.

She was very professional and assured me of anonymity. Since it initially was going to be about Singapore ABDLs I agreed to the interview. It was a little surreal getting interviewed – I had always imagined high achievers getting such an honour – but it was a professional exchange.

I told her that I can’t speak for most of the Singapore community but I could share my own experience, which I did. But she did end up taking the ‘juicy’ parts of the transcript and she went in that angle. I knew it was going to happen but I decided to let it play out. She was kind enough to let me read a draft though, and I pointed out some minor details a gesture which I appreciate.

The article went into some details about the ABs, DLs etc and used some pictures from diaper sites. She did write that I have a diaper fetish even though I did explain to her that I don’t find diapers sexual, but otherwise she stuck to the script.

We know that we ABDLs are a misunderstood bunch, but I decided to speak because this was a chance to let others know that we aren’t weirdoes or paedophiles – we are just normal people leading normal day lives and jobs, and that what we do in the privacy of our homes is our own choice that is harmless.

Major announcement coming up tomorrow, will be elaborated on Saturday!

– Selv

Entering My 25th Year

Chasing a girl is hard work. But when you’ve decided to let her go and she still wanders into your path, then it gets harder to stick to your initial decision.

I had an eye for this girl some time back. We were members of this university cultural club. I tried to catch her attention, and I did, but at some point we had the awkward chat and I understood that we could not get together for some reasons involving her family. It wasn’t a big blow or anything as I had foreseen and prepared myself for such an outcome. Yet, fate kept pushing us together, numerous times.

The most recent of which involved an event which she was helping to organise. The committee had wanted to sing a song to begin the event, and to make it less dry, she had come up with the idea of putting a montage together with the song’s lyrics. The committee then tasked her with creating this montage. So far so good, except that she had never used video editing software before.

She could have easily approached her other closer friends, people who were very skilled in videography. But she approached me, a person she barely spoke to. Why? My guess is that because I had done a similar project the year before when I was still in the club. But I didn’t get it. Isn’t it better to approach your own subordinates whom you are closer to and are, in this case, without doubt better qualified?

But she insisted that I teach her how to do the montage. As we had differing schedules, I essentially created a 3 part video tutorial (in 20 minutes haha) and gave her some storyboard ideas. And from the final product it is evident that she closely followed the tutorial.

She texted me several times to trouble shoot things, and after completing each draft, asked me to review it, which I did. But again, it was a weird thing to do, to ask a committee outsider for their comments. But I pointed out the little details and helped out where I could. After all, she is my friend.

I’m not trying to say that maybe she still harbours feelings for me, that’s why she asked me for help. Nor that the montage came out because of my input. Actually she did most of the work herself. But why ask me for tips?

Come show day, I arrived on time. She was with the rest of the committee, who were receiving guests and she quickly waved at me and smiled before turning to the next person. Alright, maybe I’ll speak to her after the event, I thought to myself.

So we settled down at the back of the huge auditorium with my group of friends. As they began the event, the emcees introduced the intro song, she and another comes up to sing it! She had created the lyrical montage and she was also singing it? Why didn’t she tell me?

Those 2 minutes were awkward, to say it simply. I kept thinking, what could have been if only we had broken the family barrier. It didn’t help one bit that she kept glancing and smiling at me throughout the song. Remember, the auditorium was big and I was a distance away.

As we sat down, I was wondering if she had been looking at our group of mutual friends instead. Or perhaps she was looking at her parents and little niece. But those piercing eyes had looked directly at me, and those groups were not in her line of sight.

I’ve always wanted a girl to look at me that way. It wasn’t the first time she looked at me this way. But each time she did, it was a solemn reminder that we may never be together, and I found myself looking away.  She is this goody two-shoes person who has a high standing amongst her peers, and here I was, a diaper boy, waiting for the rains to pour in the Sahara. Yea, I feel that I could be her equal on several parameters, but the family factor really killed it.

Cos I know from observing my family, a girl without her parents support will never be happy, and I didn’t want to disturb that equilibrium of hers for me. Besides, she’ll probably marry a high standing doctor or lawyer, who cares about engineers these days. And all of these doesn’t factor in my inherent ABDL wish list in a girl, which I frankly, have no idea whether I should keep or throw.

My only thought at this moment is that the correct girl will show herself when the time is right. And until that day arrives, I just have to study hard and shore up my finances.

– Selv

Selv Travels

Hi guys,

It’s been a busy week of sorts, both in school and in my writing space. I’ve been trying to catch up on my work as mush as possible as there are a ton of tests headed my way. But that’s student life for you.

I’ve also been preparing some stuff behind-the scenes, some new initiatives are headed this way this month of April. Those of you who have been paying keen attention will know that I’ve been hinting at certain things, and this month some of them are coming to life, the first of which is happening tomorrow.

I am pleased to announce the launch of my travel blog – Selv Travels.

Selv Travels is a collection of my travels over the years. Did you like reading my blogposts about my diapered escapades around the region? Then you would definitely enjoy reading about them, this time in greater depth and with more photos.

Tomorrow, to serve as a soft launch, I’ll post my first blog at noon, and I will be posting every 2 days for about 2 weeks. Do keep a lookout then and there for for updates on my travels. It is an ABDL Travel blog, that serves as an album of sorts of my travels. Do give it a look, and don’t forget to follow it if you would like to follow me on my travels!

As for dlselv@SG, it will be business as usual here, not to worry about that 🙂 I will continue to post at least once a week on a variety of topics centred around my DL lifestyle as well as on happenings in the general ABDL community.

At this juncture I wish to thank you, reader, once again for your continued support!

– Selv

Mamy Poko Promo

I was grocery shopping in my neighbourhood’s Fairprice wast weekend. Wasn’t all that unusual, except for the giant Mamy Poko giveaway counter at the entrance. The result? Several parents walking around the supermarket with a giant pack of Mamy Poko Air Fit diapers.

There was a competition of sorts previously and many were there to collect their ‘winnings’. I have to admit, winning an entire pack of diapers sounds so cool! Even though I don’t wear baby diapers I still kinda felt envious. There was the buy-1-get-1-free promo, which meant many people were walking around carrying that large pack.

But it was fun seeing all these young women unabashedly carrying a pack of diapers around. (Unfortunately that also means they are all mums, and not diapergirls )’: ) I overheard at least 2 people joking to their kids/siblings that they should wear diapers again, just to make use of this promotion. Guess it’s a uniquely Singaporean attitude.


A poster for the giveaway.

– Selv

A Film about Living Life in Diapers?

Sometimes people wonder what it would be like if everyone wore diapers and went about their ordinary lives. Nothing has else changes, we still work and play but all while wearing diapers. What if somebody actually made a film about it?

Actually Huggies has made such a film. This was an old ad for their diapers which will likely be the closest thing we have to such a film. But still, it was fun to watch. You may watch the ad here:

Actually, what I’d really like to see is a story about a parallel world, where people never get toilet trained and everyone wears diapers. The twist here is that there is a worldwide online community where people who like to relieve themselves in a dedicated pot(ty), and generally like to act like innocent seniors who are unable to use diapers because their skin is too sensitive to them.

On a side note, if we are able to divert just 5% of the amount of money people spend on diaper porn, we just might be able to make a couple of decent ABDL shows. But first we would need a netflix-like network that streams on-demand content. A platform where wannabe artistes can perform, without having to expose their bodies. Business idea, anyone?

– Selv

Yet Another DCo Disagreement

There have been rumblings online over the lawsuit between ABU and Tykables over the word ‘space’. I read through some of the comments, some claiming that one of these companies have a better case and would likely win. Last I heard was that a restraining order had been filed against Tykables.

But one thought that kept bugging me: why fight? Our community is so small, why sow discord amongst ourselves? Why couldn’t they just settle it amongst themselves?

Got reminded of a Buzzfeed article I read about the time Rearz tried to trademark ‘ABDL’.  The owner dropped the case when people voiced out their opinions. I just hope that one of these companies takes the lead and leads this discussion offline and directly with each other. Remember, the rest of the world is watching our already-misunderstood community.

– Selv