My India Trip

For those celebrating the end of the fasting month, I wish you a fruitful Eid Mubarak!

I’ve been overseas these past few weeks, on a community involvement program.  My organisation has partnered with SCAD, an organisation which oversees several projects helping a range of people from various backgrounds. As it was my organisation’s first OCIP trip, we decided to work on a simple project with a special needs school in Cheranmahadevi, India.

Based on a prior visit by the recce team, we split our project into a few parts. The main portion was the refurbishment of the school’s relaxation corner – a room where these underprivileged kids could play games and toys. We painted the room, and filled the shelves with toys which we collected in Singapore.

Another portion of the project involved adding games catered to the needs of these kids – most of whom had learning disabilities – such as texture cubes and a race track corner. The aim here was to engage the sensory and motor skills of these kids, to complement the academic portion for which they were already in school for

Then there was an interaction session with these kids – a simple art session where we made paper-plate jellyfish and a simple origami dog. These kids don’t really get to do artwork and it was heartening to see them expressing themselves. They may have been aged from 12-20 but the 3 teens I worked with were really kids at heart. The simple joy of writing your own name on your own artwork is something that most of us take for granted, but for these kids, it made their day. I’m glad that I was able to help them achieve that.

After the CIP portion, we had a small heritage tour of the region, stopping by cities such as Tirunelveli, Madurai, Tanjore and Tiruchi. My friends fell sick one by one, but I was the last to fall sick. They had all recovered by the last city Tiruchi, so they left me in the hotel while they went shopping and watching movies. I kept running to the toilet every half an hour, inflicted with a terrible bout of stomach flu which made even the plain water I drank to come out of the back door. That was the only time during the entire trip which I (terribly) missed my Tenas.

There was one toilet-training incident which I observed, and it shook me a little. I was in a toilet cubicle and there was this conversation between father and son transpiring in the next cubicle. The dad had brought the boy to the toilet and he asked him, “do you want to poop”. He didn’t answer. “Have you already pooped”. No answer again.

SLAP. “No, I don’t know”, he replied sullenly. The dad started to take off the boy’s diaper, grumbling loudly that he didn’t know how to tell when he needed to go and how his mother was going to be furious etc. So he sees that the diaper is clean and he gets frustrated. “Why don’t you just answer me properly?” SLAP. “Do you need to go poop now?”, he asks and the boy mush have shook his head or something because the dad roars “I want you to sit on the toilet and poop now“.

As I stood up and left, the kid was sobbing and pooping. They were an urban middle class family, but what struck me was the amount of intimidation that was used in potty training. That’s their way of life there, slaps as punishment. I was slipping in and out because of my stomach flu but that incident stuck to my consciousness. The kid moved from diapers because he was scared that his dad would hit him, not because he wanted to be like his peers.

Overall I feel that this trip did open my eyes to this part of the world. It was a memorable trip, and I feel that I gained valuable skills and insights through this trip.

– Selv

L Size Diapers For An M Sized Person

So, in a scene reminiscent of an episode last year, I saw, left in the same spot as before, a pack of diapers sitting beside a dustbin. Tena Value Institution diapers. Being the cash-strapped, diaper-missing person that I am (who also needed the toilet at that moment), I put my bag down, rounded the dustbin and picked up the diapers.

It was only when I had returned to my bag did I realise that it was an OPEN bag, of size L diapers. The contents didn’t seem contaminated with dirt or dust, and I decided to bring it home with me. After all, the cleaners would have thrown it away the next morning anyway, and it’s first come-first serve.

While the packaging wasn’t dirty or anything, I did clean the outside as well as the exposed tips. 8 extra dips, yay!

But as I opened up a diaper, it was apparent how BIG the thing was. I mean, who was I kidding? It’s meant for hip size 114-147cm (45-58in) and mine is below 80cm. And no matter how high I positioned the diaper, it wasn’t giving a snug fit… until I pulled the lower tapes higher than usual. My assets had more room, and importantly, the leg gathers still snugly fit around my bottom, ensuring a tight seal against the forthcoming eruption.

But beyond the physical part, as I lay in bed that night, something about this diaper rekindled the first time I ever wore adult diapers. I was a scrawny teenaged boy, and the S sized diapers were sold in packs of 30 and were too expensive. So I bought M sized ones. And I had this feeling of oversized comfort as I put those on, a feeling I experienced again when I wore L sized diapers for the first time years later.

I’ve always been used to tight-fitting diapers because M sizes are big for me, but S sizes are too small. So on the M diapers I’ve had to bring the tapes close to each other, until recent times when the gap started to widen and the diapers fit much more snugly.

And I kind of like this loose, snug feel that the Ls provide. Plus, it’s a plastic-backed diaper so that adds to the soothing comfort. The high-riding diaper means my hips don’t feel the tightness when the diaper is full of liquid.

I guess I now understand why ABDLs like to wear oversized diapers – it’s because of this phenomenon. The fit, the snugness, the slight oversized element… It’s like a toddler wearing his diaper without worry, rather than an older child squeezing into her diaper meant for a younger kid.

I saw a six or seven year old walk out of a tuition centre in Tampines Mall and into a toilet, her hands held by her teacher. She was visibly upset. But it was what was in the teacher’s hands that caught my eye – a Drypers diaper and some wipes. The smell was also quite strong.

I really, truly pity her, because she must have been terribly teased by her classmates afterward. Tweens are particularly nasty towards those who are different. It’s not so much the accident, those are common, but rather, it’s the diaper. If only the teacher had some tact in handling the case, it would have been better for the poor kid.

– Selv

Ending My Diaper Run

It has been a glorious two months, of being able to wear diapers almost every night. But the school year is coming to an end, and to save money I’ve checked out of my school hostel. This means no more regular diaper usage for me.

That doesn’t mean no diapers at all, just that I won’t have the freedom to wear as before. I still have about 2 diapers left, but I’m going to ration them. Cos it’s not easy bringing them into the house and I’ll be working, saving up money for the coming months. (I sound like a squirrel preparing for winter).

– Selv

P.S. It seems that my previous post was my 150th! And it seems a fitting topic for the occasion 🙂

Where To Buy Diapers In Singapore

There are a few options when it comes to buying diapers. You could buy them online, or from a brick-and-mortar shop. Some people like to shop online as it offers them the privacy and a wider range of available products to choose from. However, some people choose to buy them from stores for a number of reasons.

Many people still buy incontinence products at stores because of the speed and convenience. The majority of such users are usually bedridden and/or incontinent, as such, caregivers would tend to focus on other aspects of caring for their loved ones. As such, the products available at the nearby supermarket would suffice of them.

There are several types of diapers and incontinence products. There are tape-on diapers, pull-up pants, pad-type as well as bed protectors. Many of these are available even at supermarkets but for this post I will concentrate only on tape-on diapers.

If you guys want to skip the lengthy details, you may read the last section for my views.

Supermarkets

Many of us would have noticed that supermarkets carry adult diapers. There would usually be a small section in the baby diaper section which has a small selection of adult diapers. Almost all supermarkets in Singapore carry the Tena Value brand, it is a well-known plastic-backed brand which is well regarded for its’ price as well as capacity.

Prime Supermarkets carry a modest selection of diapers. They carry the Certainty line, Dr. P (Basic) as well as Tena Value. They used to carry a few other brands but have since stopped. They don’t have house-brand diapers.

Sheng Siong Supermarkets also have a modest range. They carry Dr. P, Tena Pants, Prevail diapers, which are unique to Sheng Siong. as well as their store-brand Softess Diapers, which cost $5.80 for 10. They do not carry Tena Value, surprisingly.

Giant Supermarkets have a wider range. They carry the usual Certainty diapers, Tena Slip Super, Tena Value, Tena Pants as well as Lifree Super Absorb diapers. You can find several variants of the Dr. P line only at their Hypermarket in Tampines. They have their own house brand diapers, the Giant (Storebrand) diapers, costing $6.50 for 10, which must have an audience for them despite their quality, having been around for many years.

NTUC Fairprice takes the cake for the most types of diapers it offers. It carries Certainty, Lifree Super Absorb tape-ons and pants, Tena Pants, Tena Value as well as TWO house brand diapers. It’s ‘Budget’ line is, as the name suggests, a budget diaper which is surprisingly popular possibly due to its price of $5.75 for 10. It also has a premium line, the Fairprice Safe Control and the overnight version Extra Control. While these are more pricey than your average economy diaper, they aren’t as well regarded. Fairprice also has diaper samples on display, so customers can feel the diaper’s texture before purchasing.

Hospital and Polyclinic Pharmacies

There are several hospitals out there, but I shall mention two of these. The first would be Ng Teng Fong hospital. They carry Tena Value (Institution), Certainty, Tena Slip Super as well as Tena Slip Maxi.  The issue is with getting to this pharmacy involves going pretty far out of your way just to reach it. While it is theoretically on the same level, and connected to, the Jurong East MRT station it is a very long walk winding through two malls and three towers within Ng Teng Fong Hospital. They do not have an online site yet.

I find that the prices of the products are more or less the same. However, they carry the 28pack Tena Slip Super, being one of the 2 suppliers in Singapore. Given it is price it is very much worth paying a visit if you use the TSS regularly, however you should call to check before going as stocks are limited.

The Second hospital pharmacy worth mentioning is Changi General Hospital’s Pharmacy. This pharmacy carries the usual Tena Value (U.P.$10.40, currently $7.50), Tena Value Institution as well as Tena Slip Maxi. They also carry Molicare Mobile diapers, which are a range of pull-up style diapers. This pharmacy has an online website which provides delivery, which does not come in discreet packaging!

Most of the polyclinics in Singapore are run by the National Healthcare Group, which has its’ own website as well. It carries Tena Value ($10.90), Tena Value Institution, Certainty as well as Tena Slip Super and Maxi. While their outlets usually are missing stock, their website usually has stock. I haven’t tried their delivery service.

Specialty Stores

Now there are a number of homecare shops here and I’ll talk about 2- Rehabmart and SeniorCare Assisted Living.

Rehabmart has one of the widest range of adult diapers. They have the usual Tena Value ($9.00!), Dr P, Certainty. They also carry Lille SupremFit diapers (Blue, Grey), Tena Slip Plus and Super, Molicare Super, BW Ultra and Convifit.

There is SeniorCare Assisted Living, which carries a number of unique diapers. Besides their Certainty and Tena Pants, Tena Value (U.P. $9.90, currently $8.70!!!) and the 28pack TSS, they carry Nateen, Seni and Cleancare diapers.

Thoughts

If you have reached this far, congratulations for your skimming skills! A number of people have asked for a comparison of different sites and while this isn’t a thorough review (and shouldn’t be regarded as such), it should give you a glimpse on where to buy Adult Diapers in Singapore.

Speciality stores are a great place to get Economy and Premium diapers because they have big bargains, and bring in good brands in all sizes (S-XL). They may be slightly out of the way, but they all offer delivery options.

Pharmacies often give the illusion that prices are cheaper but this is only true if one purchases in bulk. Generally I avoid buying in pharmacies because they are often crowded and their diaper shelves are placed in very open spaces. Not forgetting that they are often out of the way. The only scenario I see if of me getting the 28pc TSS, otherwise no for me.

Then there are supermarkets. Supermarkets offer convenience and accessibility as they are everywhere. Often they have promotional pricing available so you would usually get a few dollars off if you do a little research. You are able to get budget diapers here as well. But privacy can be a nightmare, for these are usually located in malls and town centres. I usually go over to the next town to minimise the chances of that happening. Usually, convenience beats savings and I get most of my diapers from a Supermarket.

There is one last category which I didn’t mention and that is chain pharmacies. Only two carry diapers, NTUC’s Unity as well as Guardian. The former carries the exact same range as its’ Fairprice chain, plus TSS, while Guardian only carries it’s own brand of (in my opinion lousy) diapers.

So where do you get your diapers? Do let me know! I hope this post was informative and you were able to learn a thing or two.

– Selv

Hiatus Is Ending Soon

I need to apologise for not mentioning that I am on my exam break for the semester. Nevertheless, my last paper is tomorrow so I will be posting something this coming Saturday. I keep on receiving alerts that views jump at 10pm on Saturdays especially so I’ve been feeling a little guilty.

I usually take a writing hiatus for 3 weeks in the months of April and November to concentrate on my exams, but this time, I was hoping to squeeze in another post, which I didn’t. That’s why this happened 😦 .

For this Saturday, I’ll blog about my experience in buying diapers at various places and types of stores, in Singapore.

I hope you guys have had a restful Labour Day holiday yesterday!

With Regards,
– Selv

Cloth-diapers

Like many parts of the world, cloth diapers are gaining traction in Singapore too. There was a recent newspaper article which highlighted this trend.

There are two schools of thought which draw people towards cloth-diapering. The first would be the environmental degradation that disposable diapers cause. A child would use up to 5400 diapers in 3 years, which ends up in landfills or, in Singapore’s case, additional trash which needs to be incinerated. The other thought is the cost. A starter of cloth-diapers would cost about $400-$500, but disposable diapers would cost upwards of $2000 and more.

Yet, the take-up rate is slow. A parent even put her name on record that she prefers disposables, that is how mainstream disposable diaper usage is in Singapore. None of my relatives cloth-diaper their kids in the ‘modern cloth diaper’ sense, but they still do cloth diaper then with muslin cloth for the first year or so. The reasoning is that newborns go through several napkin changes a day, and their skins are delicate.

Furthermore, my grandma and aunt claim that baby poo isn’t really that bad smelling cos they don’t have the germs that adult ones have, hence its ‘easier to handle’. Plus, they use a sheet of Napkin Liner, essentially a tough tissue paper, that took most of the solid away for easy washing. This is something the article did not mention when they talked about Muslin cloth diapers.

But the rate of napkin usage has been dropping too. The advent of cloth-backed diapers, replacing plastic-backed ones in the process, ensures that skin-breathability has massively improved.

Which brings us back to why people still use disposables. The first reason is the convenience of wipe-and-throw, and the second is the perceived notion that disposable diapers will never leak. A third reason, as cited in the article, is that many daycare centres do not allow for cloth-backed diapers in their centers.

All three of these reasons have to do with the mindset of ease and convenience. “The environmentalist doesn’t have to deal with baby excretions,” my aunt declared as we debated, which kind of shut me up.

– Selv

Escapade To Cameron Highlands Part 1

I’m a person who loves travelling. Admittedly, budget and time constraints mean that my trips are to nearby places. This time, I decided to travel to the Cameron Highlands – by driving up to it from Kuala Lumpur.

But being on a shoestring budget, I wanted to save every cent and when I realised I could save $20 by flying to KL from Johor Bahru instead of Singapore, I decided that this was the chance to try out the Johor Airport. Calculating for a 6pm arrival at Cameron Highlands, I knew I had to catch a 10am flight from JB.

Which meant crossing the Johor-Singapore Causeway on public transport during the morning rush hour. It’s reputation as the region’s busiest road, coupled with the fact that  during every family trip it took at least an hour to cross, got me worried. But I decided to try.

So I had to walk out of my university campus at 5.20am to catch the first bus from the main road. Eventually I reached Kranji MRT, where there were a selection of bus services available. You can read the full list here. I was initially waiting for the Causeway Link bus, but 15 minutes later it still hadn’t arrived. So I decided to forget the RM1 fare and boarded 170X instead, paying $1+.

It’s an express service that goes on to Larkin terminal near JB town, but I was getting off at the Malaysian CIQ. I crossed my fingers as we approached the causeway. There was a steady stream of motorbikes, busses and Malaysian cars pouring out from the checkpoint. Lo and behold, the traffic in the direction TO Johor Bahru was nonexistent. I had cleared both countries customs in a dizzying 12 minutes- on public transport!

Anyway, I made my way down to the bus terminal to catch the airport shuttle, operated by Causeway Link. The fare was RM8, and the hourly bus departed on schedule at 8am, but arrived 15 minutes ahead of schedule at 8.30am.

Mind you, JB’s Senai Airport is small. And if you were catching a domestic flight, the queues at that hour were non-existent. You did have to go through a metal detector and a patdown, but the security personnel did not feel my diaper nor ask me to open my bag. This left me with 2 whole hours to do my work, before my flight. Having finally passed the security checks, I could finally pee.

Had a window seat to myself 🙂

We landed at KLIA2 – the budget carriers terminal, and once I had changed out of my soaked diaper, I made a terrible discovery – the car I had reserved was at the main terminal. I ran for the connecting KLIA Ekspress train, but discovered that I had missed it by 1 minute and had to wait half an hour for the next.

Anyway, I managed to get to the car, after a lot of walking. The signage in the main terminal was misleading – it pointed to an area in the carpark that said ‘car rental’ but that area was barren. After talking to a security warden who was unsure of the directions himself, I found the dingy dungeon where the car rental companies were operating.

It’s a far cry from what the operators in KLIA2 enjoy. Anyway, I picked up my car from Paradise Cars. After witnessing a Lebanese couple plead to the owner that they did not scratch the car they were returning, I was shown my car, and I was off.

You may wonder why was I so confident of driving off in a foreign land just like that. I had come prepared, with the Waze app preloaded and a phone holder and car-charger which I quickly installed. With my data-plan sim card that I had bought in JB, I as confident that I could make it anywhere without getting lost.

I had initially planned to drive into the KL City Centre for lunch and a spot of shopping. But the 45-minute delay meant that I had to skip that, in order to reach Tanah Rata in the Cameron Highlands before sunset. That meant an impromptu stopover. I recognised a Tesco on the map 8km away, and immediately set Waze to reach it.

But I should have known that the Malaysian roads were twisty and turny, and I drove for 15km, to reach it. To eat lunch at a KFC. At least it was stuff that I recognised, at a place that is decently clean.

Despite running late, I decided to take a peek in the Tesco supermarket above. I realised that the only Adult Diapers in this place were Tena Values. But the baby diaper aisle was full of some amazing-looking brands I had never seen. Alas a couple there prevented me from taking a picture. I stocked up on essentials such as water and some small munchies for the journey, before setting off.

The third leg of the day was the 150km drive up the North-South Highway – the region’s most famous road. Stopping just before the Tapah exit, I refuelled, conscious that I had made a severe miscalculation (I’ll get to this in a bit). Wearily, I pumped air in my tires, something I should have done before I set off, for it would have improved my mileage. The petrol kiosk attendant watched me struggle with amusement. On the last 10km or so, the front wheel started to rattle and it scared the wits out of me. Luckily I was wearing a diaper.

Anyway, I soon exited the highway and hit the mountainous road, just as it started to pour. I was really terrified and began to question what the hell was I doing? I knew that cars honked at each other at bends, but I’m sure many honked at me.

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It was raining on the drive up.

I nearly got into an accident on the way up. I was distracted that the GPS and radio was not functioning and was prodding the radio while on the move, but on that curvy road, I quickly strayed onto the opposing lane. Visibility was bad due to the rain, and I must thank my lucky stars that the other car stopped in time. It could have been the fatigue, but it was not an excuse at all.

Once I reached the first town – Ringlet – I reset my GPS and kept on driving. Left, right, left, right. That was the sequence. Perhaps a little more rights, but it was the sheer monotony of the drive that was beginning to unnerve me. Thankfully, I arrived in Tanah Rata soon enough. I did have to guess and drive around a little to find my hotel, but thankfully there was a parking lot available. It was 6.30, and I had made it before the sun set.

Once I got my room key, I turned my attention to the aforementioned miscalculation. I had left a RM100 note at home, meaning that I was severely short of cash – that was mainly to be used to pay for petrol and meals. I reckoned that I could survive on the 3 chocolate barsI’d bought earlier, but what would I do to return to KL? I had to catch that flight, I had school on friday afternoon!

So I activated my overseas atm withdrawal feature via iBanking (it’s something you have to do with Singapore cards), and began to try every single ATM in Tanah Rata. CIMB, RHB, Maybank, Agrobank, Western Union. But my OCBC Mastercard and POSB ATM card did not yield. I was trying their Cirrus and Maestro functions, things I never really paid attention to in the past. But now I was praying that they would send the money in my way. No such luck.

Having eaten a modest dinner costing RM5, I trudged over to the other side of the road to take a walk. There were a number of eateries and souvenir shops along the main Tanah Ratah shopping stretch, and after enquiring about some tour packages, I decided to head back to my hotel room to sulk and get some sleep.

Then I spotted a HSBC branch. It did the trick, using Maestro. To which, I’m true grateful to them. It took a global banking giant to serve this customer, when all the star-studded Malaysian banks couldn’t.

I returned to my room at my inn, washed up, and I hit the haystack early. It wasn’t a comfortable night, as there was neither a fan nor an aircon. The bedsheets were rough but at least they were clean. Either way, I was too tired to care and I sed into a deep slumber quickly.

Part 2 coming up in a bit.

– Selv

My First Diaper Vid on Youtube

Been wandering around, trying to revisit why I’m an ABDL and stuff. Been looking around to forge new friendships in the ABDL scene. I’ve also been looking at my pastor clues into my future.

Anyway, I got reminded about the first diaper video I ever watched on YouTube. It’s a scene from Bad Girls From Valley High. The main characters start to age rapidly after doing in a friend who’s ghost has returned to haunt them. One of these characters is wearing a green adult diaper.

I’m still curious what brand of diaper she was wearing, it’s a nice green thing like the usual white that we see everyday. I also realised years later that they added in the crinkles post-production, cos it is unlikely that they were this loud.

The original clip I watched in 2008 has disappeared, but someone has re-uploaded it, for me to share it here with you guys.

– Selv

P.S. I will make a diaper video one day, hopefully after my exams, but something that is hopefully not distasteful.

Jettisoning

My mind is dizzied with the emotions running though. I don’t usually hang out with my society friends, especially on a friday night, but I knew I needed to get it off my mind.

Girls think men must move mountains to profess their love for her, but I disagree. Cos when you have moved a truckload and she doesn’t respond more than 3 words, you know that it is a lost cause. Do girls know what it is like to think of a good message every day that isn’t creepy sounding? Do girls know how much guts it takes to arrange a meet with a crush? It’s not easy to forget. Especially when I chose you over my tests several times this semester. Even God was trying to make me forget by giving me a pseudo-date yesterday (with a girl who wants an arranged marriage, but that’s not the point).

My mind is distressed,

refusing to rest,

knowing it’s a test,

disagreeing it’s for the best.

– Selv

Diapers And Television

Pollution and environmental protection are not new ideas, they have been around for decades. In fact, disposable diapers were identified as a major source of trash that took up considerable landfill space. Toilets and sanitation facilities on the other hand were still switching to environmentally sensitive processing methods as late as the 80’s.

I came across this clip of an old 80’s Canadian TV show called ‘You Can’t Do That On Television’, it is a sit-com of the day that tried to spin the pollution idea with the idea that ‘only babies wear diapers, hence people will laugh if an older kid wearing them’. But it is objectively funny in itself.

Televisions were built to inform, but have been used to entertain for decades. It is when companies create entertainment with a spin of truth, that certain stereotypes form, e.g that diapers are for babies, that you must potty train by 2 etc. And as we move towards being an intelligent society, we must digest our entertainment with a pinch of salt.

You may watch it here.

 

– Selv